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How to Managing Stress and Your Finances During the COVID-19 Pandemic.

By Monika Ritchie.

There’s no doubt that as we weather the coronavirus pandemic, stress has increasingly become a regular part of our lives. As if worries about our own health and the health of our loved ones isn’t enough, many of us are feeling the pressure of financial stress from mounting bills, reduced incomes, and job uncertainty.

That kind of stress can lead to many health issues, and decreasing it is a great way to help us stay healthy in a time when that’s so crucial. So what can you do to manage stress during the coronavirus pandemic? Getting your finances sorted out as soon as possible will go a long way to mitigating your money worries. Pair financial stress relief with tips to take care of your mental health, and you’ll be able to manage this difficult time more effectively.

4 Tips to Take Care of Your Finances During COVID-19.

During this time your health really does come first, but taking care of your finances will alleviate some of the tension and stress you might be feeling. Knowing that your money issues are taken care of will also allow you to focus more on your wellbeing. Here are a few steps to help you move forward:

1. Reach Out to Your Bank and/or Creditors.
The best time to talk to your financial institution is before things have gotten out of hand. Concerned about paying your mortgage? The sooner you reach out, the better. As nervous as you might feel about talking to your bank, keep in mind that a lot of people need help right now, and many banks, credit unions, and lenders are working to support you. They’ll appreciate you being proactive and will help you find solutions.

2. Get Familiar with the Resources Available to You.
Right now, there are a variety of resources available to help you through this difficult time. Whether it’s support during unemployment, deferred payment plans, or other emergency benefits, learn about which programs are for you. Visit this comprehensive coronavirus resource page to find all of the key resources available for Canadians in one spot.

3. Build and Adjust Your Budget for Reduced Income.
If you don’t have a budget, now is a good time to put one together. If you’re facing a significant reduction in income due to the COVID-19 pandemic, then track your expenses carefully and build an emergency budget. If you already have a budget, consider reviewing it to see if you can pare it down and reduce your expenses further. Take advantage of staying home for all this time and implement a no-spend challenge to help yourself save on discretionary expenses.

How to Manage Your Money During an Unexpected Financial Crisis.

4. Stay Safe and Be Aware of Scams.
Unfortunately, even during a worldwide health emergency, scammers are trying to take advantage of the situation. With so many individuals anxious about the state of their health and finances, many are susceptible to frauds around COVID-19. Be wary of any unsolicited emails, phone calls, or other communications, especially ones that request donations or sensitive information. Do not give out any of your personal information to unfamiliar individuals or businesses, and don’t fall victim to text message scams that ask you to get your money by clicking on a link. When in doubt, contact a company or the government directly by looking up their contact information yourself.

Tips to Manage Your Mental Health During COVID-19.

By now, everyone is familiar with the guidelines around social distancing and self isolation, but that doesn’t mean you need to resign yourself to loneliness and zero social contact. Your mental health is just as important as your financial well-being, so check out these six tips for self-care:

1. Connect with Family and Friends.
While in-person visits are not possible right now, phone calls, video chats, and emailing are all great ways to stay in touch with loved ones. You can share photos and videos, favourite songs, recipes, and more. Make it a priority to (remotely) interact with at least one person outside of your house every day. It will do wonders for your mood and emotional health as well as theirs.

2. Catch Up on Unfinished Projects.
For many of us, there are simply not enough hours in the day to catch up on our various chores and miscellaneous projects. If you’re “stuck” at home, it can be a great time to finish these off. Not only will you check some items off your to-do list, but you’ll get a great mental boost from being productive. However, be wary of tacking a project with a higher price tag than what you can afford on reduced income.

3. Use Community Resources.
Many communities across the country have risen to the challenge of providing support services to those who may need extra help during this time. If you have mobility issues or other challenges, you don’t need to struggle alone. Look into programs in your area that can help you with running errands, grocery shopping, and other necessities. On a larger scale, many grocery stores now have options for online shopping and delivery to help with social distancing. Try connecting with your community on Facebook or see if your province has a central resource centre to coordinate offers of help.

4. Get Creative with Exercise.
You may not be able to go to the gym for now, but many fitness providers are offering online and remote classes that you can follow along with. If you’re not really a gym person, you can lift weights and do strength training from the comfort of your own home. Or you can simply put on your favourite music and have a dance party. You’ll burn calories and get a great boost from all those endorphins!

5. Get Outside If You Can.
Most public spaces like playgrounds, parks, and pools have been closed. But going out for a walk, hike, or run is acceptable if you’re doing it in areas that allow you to keep your distance from other people. If that’s not possible, simply sitting on your balcony or in your backyard with a book is a great way to get some fresh air and vitamin D.

6. Reach Out for Help If You Need It.
If you’re starting to feel overwhelmed or anxious with what’s been going on, counsellors and other support professionals are often available for appointments over the phone or online and can help you work through feelings of anxiety, panic, or depression. You don’t have to suffer alone, so reach out if you need to. If you’re not sure where to turn, contact the Canadian Mental Health Association to find services in your community.

When to Ask for Help from Professional Credit Counsellors.
There’s nothing wrong with getting some professional help before you back yourself into an even tougher spot with a do-it-yourself (DIY) debt relief program. Building budgets, accessing government resources, and speaking to creditors can be a daunting task – especially if you’re new to the experience and feeling stressed and overwhelmed. An accredited financial counsellor can help with navigating the resources available to you, building an emergency budget, and working through your options in an objective and pressure-free environment. Don’t be afraid to reach out – the best non-profit consumer credit counselling services are ready to help.
July 16, 2020


How to Ask Rich People for Money.

Fundraising for charity is an important part of any nonprofit group's work. In the U.S. alone, donors gave almost $287 billion in 2011. Many people who work for nonprofits feel uncomfortable asking donors for money, but without their help most nonprofit groups would not be able to carry out their missions. Learning how to effectively and respectfully ask wealthy individuals for money can help you ensure your charity or favorite nonprofit, federally recognized as 501 (c) (3), group prospers and is able to help those in need.

Part 1 Planning Your Donation Request
1. Compile a list of donors. Before you begin asking for money, it's best to have an idea of who you're going to ask for donations. If you're going door-to-door, that may be as simple as deciding which neighborhood(s) to work in. If you're soliciting donations by phone or by mail, though, you'll need a list of prospective donors to contact.
If you can identify past donors on your list of people to call or write to, you may want to prioritize those individuals as "best bets" - these are people who, given their history of donating in the past, will most likely contribute again to your cause.
Try to identify which people on your list are the most financially stable. You can do this by interacting with the individual to get a sense of his or her finances, or if going door-to-door, look at the houses residents live in and the cars in their driveways. People with large, elaborate homes or flashy sports cars most likely have more disposable income. (Though of course this doesn't guarantee that they will give donations.)
You can also look for potential donors by their other areas of spending. For example, does the prospective donor attend fundraisers for other organizations or individuals? If so, that prospective donor probably has the means to donate to your organization, if properly persuaded.
Consider using analytical software and services, such as Donor Search, to identify which potential donors are more wealthy and more likely to donate.
Remember to think "ABC" when identifying donors: Able to make a gift, Belief (known or potential) in your cause, and Contact/Connection with your organization.
2. Get to know your donors. If your organization has dealt with donors in the past, you or a colleague will probably know what strategies work best in making your appeal. Some people want to know how the money from last year was spent, while others may simply want to know how much is needed. Certain donors may have fears or reservations about donating, and it's important to learn to recognize those fears/reservations so you can address them in advance.
Some donors may need to hear particular terms or phrases in order to be persuaded to donate. If you know this to be the case, make some indication of this on your list so that when you call or approach that person, you'll know what to say.
Any time a donor seems reluctant to give but gives anyway, make a note of that situation on your list or in that donor's file (if you have one). Listen to what the individual says when he or she is reluctant, and try to find ways to assuage those fears - not just for this year's fundraiser, but for future years as well.
Be aware that many well-known philanthropists hire other individuals to manage donations and contributions. Because of this, you may not get to speak to the actual donor himself/herself. However, the employees hired by a philanthropist probably have the same concerns that the philanthropist does, and you may have some luck appealing to the philanthropist's interests through his or her employees.
3. Find ways to present your organization. People who have donated to your organization will no doubt be familiar with who you are (as an organization) and what you do. But what about people who have never donated before? How will you describe what you do to an outsider? This is important, as it may determine whether the individual will listen to the rest of your pitch. If possible, try to compile some data on what your organization has done in the past, the problems you hope to address after this fundraising drive, and how that prospective donation would help your cause.
Try to present your organization in a way that both explains what you do while also highlighting the issue you seek to change. For example, you might say something like, "Did you know that [the issue your organization addresses] affects a significant portion of the city, and we are the only organization solely committed to addressing these issues in a comprehensive way?"
It's not a requirement to have data compiled, but for individuals who aren't familiar with your organization, it may be very helpful to know that information.
Consider printing out a brochure or having a reusable chart to illustrate both the improvements you've made and the improvements you hope to make.
Think about what you might say if someone doesn't understand your organization's goals, or what you might say if someone was dismissive of your organization. Try putting yourself in those shoes - imagining that you were someone who didn't want to help the organization - and what you might say to the organization. Then imagine how you might respond to hearing those words.
The better your donor base understands your organization - and the better you understand your donors - the more likely you'll be to build a long-term relationship with that donor.
4. Practice your appeal. One of the best things you can do to strengthen your appeal for donations is to practice what you're going to say. That doesn't just mean knowing how to actually ask for money, but also knowing how to initiate the conversation, practicing scenarios, anticipating potential responses, and knowing how to direct (or re-direct) the conversation.
Remember that the best appeal will educate the potential donor, rather than making a simple sales pitch.
Practice your appeal out loud. Get comfortable with the speech, and learn to adapt it to your own style of speaking. Make it your own speech, and try to make it feel comfortable and unrehearsed (even though this may take a lot of rehearsal).
Practice in front of a mirror if you will be interacting with donors face-to-face.
Try recording yourself, either with a tape recorder or on video, and study your mannerisms and your speech patterns. Does it sound honest? Do your vocal patterns and your physical mannerisms communicate the message of your organization, and the urgency of what you're trying to solve?

Part 2 Asking for Donations.
1. Start a conversation. Don't just call and start running in with your pitch. Work on creating a dialogue with the potential donor, which may mean making some polite small talk at the start. It can be as simple as asking the person how his or her day is going. Anything to start a conversation should help disarm the individual, and make the person realize that you're a caring and concerned member of the community.
If the prospective donor is a known philanthropist, he or she may prefer to have someone who heads the foundation ask for a donation. Statistically, donors are more likely to give money to a recognizable figure affiliated with an organization, rather than to a fundraiser who contacts them on the organization's behalf.
Initiate the conversation by getting the prospective donor to acknowledge an existing problem. If you're raising money for a local organization, you might open the conversation by asking what he or she thinks is the greatest crisis facing your region.
2. Make your intentions known. You shouldn't just introduce yourself by asking for money, but you should make your intentions known near the end of your small talk. Start by asking how the person is doing, or commenting on the weather, and then use that as a lead-in to say, "I'm working with _______, and we're trying to help _______ be able to ________."
If the individual feels like you're just having an aimless conversation and then suddenly he or she is asked for money, it may create tension and cause the person to feel like you're shaking them down. Be calm, friendly, and casual, but don't drag your feet about making it clear that you have a purpose.
3. Let the other person speak. Chances are, if you launch into your usual appeal to a person on the street who's never donated before, that person will walk away. But if you have created a dialogue, and made room for the other person to speak, you may be able to get that individual to feel engaged and a part of the solution.
Try asking a Question : . Say something like, "What do you think is the biggest problem our community faces?" Once the person has answered, instead of simply saying, "Yes, you're right. Will you consider donating?" try a more nuanced approach. After the person says what he or she sees as the problem, just say, "How interesting!" and keep silent while remaining interested.
People fear silence, and the person will probably fill that gap by elaborating on why that issue is important. That potential donor may go on to talk about how a family member has been affected by those issues. This gives you an in to take the specific concern he/she has and run with it. It's no longer an abstract concern, but a specific problem that may have affected the individual personally.
4. Make a specific request. If you leave a donation appeal open-ended, the person may not end up donating, or may only give a few dollars. But if you ask for a specific amount, it takes a lot of guess work out of the equation for that individual, and makes it easier to commit to your request. For example, if the person seems interested, say something like, "Well, we can make a difference. For just _____ dollars, you can help accomplish ___________."
Another way to ask for a specific amount is to put the ball in their court. Ask something like, "Would you consider a gift of _____?" or "Is ______ something you'd be willing to consider to help tackle the problem of __________?"
5. Be persistent. Many people will say no right off the bat, but others may simply need to be persuaded a bit more. Perhaps someone might say that the amount you requested is too high. If that happens, let the person know that any donation amount would be a big help, and ask if there's a slightly lower amount that the person would be willing/able to donate.
Don't be aggressive with your appeal, but do be insistent that your cause is worthy and that any donation amount would help that cause.
6. Thank the person either way. If the individual is willing to donate, then it's cause for celebration. You can thank the person and let him or her know that that donation will go a long way towards solving or addressing the issue at hand. But even if the person is not interested in donating, you should still be polite and appreciative of their time. Simply say, "Well, thank you for your time and have a wonderful day."
Expressing gratitude and courtesy can go a long way. Just because someone isn't interested in donating, that doesn't mean the situation won't change. Perhaps next year the people who said no will have heard or read more about your organization, or perhaps the individual will have been personally affected by the issue you're seeking to address. Making a good impression now, even when turned down, may be what helps you get a donation next year.
7. Follow up with donors. If someone gave a donation, you should absolutely express gratitude. Send the donor a thank-you letter and a gift receipt (in case they want to write it off on their taxes or simply have a record of the donation). It's best to send these items as quickly as possible so that the donor knows that the contribution was greatly appreciated and will be put to good use.

Community Q&A.

Question : How do I ask a rich person for 50,000 dollars?
Answer : Follow the instructions listed in the article above. However, they will likely say no.
Question : How can I get money if I need it urgently?
Answer : Get a job, start a blog, make something, or ask for a small loan.
Question : How can I get help with my power bills and the foreclosure on my house?
Answer : There are probably social services nearby that can help.
Question : How can I raise money for my wedding?
Answer : Ask friends and family members if they are willing to pitch in some money to help fund your marriage. In return, send them invitations.
Question : How can I find money for my daughter's marriage?
Answer : Loans, relatives, friends, or you could try planning a wedding that won't cost you much!
Question : Where can you apply for a small business loan with bad credit?
Answer : You can try becoming a member of a credit union and try for a loan there.
Question : How do I ask for money if I am about to be homeless with an autistic son?
Answer : Ask family and friends, and tell them your situation. Look for government programs that can help, and depending on the age of your son, you may be able to get financial help for him. You can also ask family and friends if the two of you can stay with them while you get back on your feet. That way, you have an address while you look for a job.
Question : I need a loan to deal with a parent's sickness, what can I do?
Answer : Loans are not the only solution to sickness, there are organizations that provide affordable medical care. Search for these in your area. You might also consider launching a donation campaign through Kickstarter or another fundraising website.
Question : How can someone fund me to help me spread the word of God?
Answer : Try doing a simple fundraiser, like a lemonade stand or a car wash.

Tips.

Many people are more motivated to help you with money if they sympathize with your goals or interests. Try to tailor your appeal to each individual donor, based on how that donor seems to respond to the issues you address.
Always send a thank-you note to your donors, regardless of how much they sent you.
July 02, 2020


How to Deal With Losing Your Wallet.

Losing your wallet can be frustrating, embarrassing, and, if it falls into the wrong hands, a threat to your finances and your good name. If you cannot quickly locate your lost wallet using sensible search strategies, acting promptly to secure your identity and credit can save you a good deal of aggravation down the road. Consult this article to help take back control of what you’ve lost.

Part 1 Handling a Lost Wallet.
1. Search for 24 hours before canceling credit cards or requesting a new ID. You have 48 hours to report a missing card before you are liable for any charges, so use the time wisely. If you know the card is stolen, move on to the next step immediately.
Search all clothing, bags, and pockets.
Call recent locations, like restaurants and bars.
Search your house systematically, circling from the perimeter of rooms to the middle.
2. Go online and check for any fraudulent charges. Check your bank and credit card accounts online to see if any purchases have been made since the card went missing. If there are charges, this likely indicates the card was stolen.
3. Inform your bank of the missing card. Call your bank and let them know the card is gone. Report any fraudulent charges immediately. Log the date and time of every interaction in case there is a dispute.
4. Cancel any credit or debit cards. Call the institutions involved and request a new card. If you have any alternate copies, cut them up and discard them. You may need to provide bank information to verify your card is missing.
5. Call the major credit bureaus and to request a fraud alert on your credit line. This helps prevent serious changes to your credit score.
6. Apply for a replacement ID. Call, visit, or go online to check your state DMV's policy on new licenses. Many let you get your first replacement online, though it does cost money.
7. Call your insurance company and request a new account number. You should do this for medical, dental, and auto insurance to avoid potential identity theft.
8. Report potentially stolen property to the police. They will let you know if something comes up. Having a police report will also make it much easier to deal with disputes from your bank or credit cards if something goes wrong or your identity is stolen.
You should file a police report online no matter what, providing a paper trail for your bank in a dispute.
9. Photocopy all of your cards and IDs for future reference. It is much, much easier to remedy a lost wallet if you have copies of all the documents and cards. Never carry your Social Security card in your wallet, even a copy.

Part 2 Searching for Your Wallet.
1. Relax, focus, and think. Have you ever gotten angry because you can't find the remote or the Corn Flakes, then gotten even angrier because nobody in your house can put things back where they belong, then eventually calmed down and realized the remote or Corn Flakes are in fact exactly where they belong and you just missed seeing them?
When we panic about losing something, especially something important like a wallet, we lose focus and can easily overlook obvious clues -- or even the item right in front of us.
Take several deep breaths, and try to clear your mind. Try not to think about all the problems you'll have to face if you can't find your wallet. Focus only on the wallet, where it should be, and where it could be. Then begin your true search.
2. Look again in places it would normally be. Your first search was probably increasingly panic-stricken and thus increasingly useless. Now that you are calm, pick out the most obvious spots where your wallet would be -- the pocket of your pants hanging on the chair, your nightstand, your desk at work -- and give a proper search.
Search in proximity to the obvious places as well -- the floor around your nightstand, your other desk drawers / pants pockets, etc.
3. Retrace your steps. Think about the last place you remember having your wallet -- paying for coffee downtown, picking it up from your nightstand, etc. -- and work backwards until reaching that point.
Go through all the clothes you’ve worn in that period of time, and check all the pockets carefully. Be sure to include coats and bags as well.
Working your way back through your routine may help jog your memory, so leave no stone unturned even if it seems an unlikely place to have lost your wallet.
Consider whether someone may have (without bad intent) picked up your wallet -- a curious child? a friend trying to help? Contact anyone who may have had inadvertent contact with your wallet.
4. Call places you visited recently. Did you visit a restaurant, theater, an office, or even a friend’s house? Call and ask if your wallet has turned up.
You may need to describe your wallet. Knowing the name on your ID and credit cards will probably suffice to prove it’s yours, but being able to describe a family photo or ice cream punch card might help as well.
Don’t assume a business will call you if they find your wallet. They might place it in lost and found and forget, or they may have a policy not to call for privacy reasons -- they may not want to disclose where you were without your permission by calling your home.
5. Look carefully in places it would not normally be. Expand your search radius further away from the most likely places your wallet would be -- your whole bedroom, your whole second floor, your whole house.
Pick out high-traffic areas in your home/workplace where you wouldn't usually place your wallet but could have -- the kitchen, the restroom, etc.
Search a room methodically by using a grid search (breaking the room up into small segments and searching each one-by-one), or a spiral search (searching around the perimeter, then working inward to the center).
For more search ideas, see How to Find Lost Objects
6. Assume your wallet is stolen if not found within a day or so. No, don’t call before making a good effort searching for the wallet, because it would be very frustrating to go through the process of canceling cards, etc., only to find it in your jeans pocket. That said, it is better to be safe than sorry if you can’t track down your wallet relatively quickly.
Your liability for purchases made with a stolen debit card begins after 48 hours (at $50), and other lost cards may have deadlines for reporting as well. And even if you are not liable for credit card purchases, it is much easier to stop fraudulent charges before they can happen than deal with them after they do.
Begin making the notifications indicated in the relevant Part of this article.

Part 3 Protecting Your Identity and Finances.
1. Call your bank(s) and report your debit card(s) as missing. Because laws governing debit cards and credit cards are different, you should make this call first and within 48 hours of losing your wallet to protect yourself from fraudulent charges.
If you alert your financial institution within 48 hours, you maximum liability is $50; within 60 days, it is $500; after that, your liability is unlimited if someone is using your card.
Because your debit card is linked to your checking account, and your checking accounts may be linked to other accounts, expect to receive not only a new debit card / number but also new account numbers. You will also need new paper checks.
Keep in mind any automatic payments you may have through your debit card or checking account (phone bill, life insurance premium, etc.). You will need to update the payment information on these when your account number changes.
Yes, this is a hassle, but it is better than having your bank accounts drained and then having to jump through hoops to have your funds restored.
2. Report your credit cards as missing. You don’t actually need to cancel them, which would necessitate applying for cards all over again. By reporting them as missing / stolen, you will get new cards with new numbers but be able to retain your current account status.
You maximum liability for fraudulent credit card charges is $50, and is $0 if you contact the company before the card is used fraudulently, but it is easier to prevent fraudulent purchases before they happen than work to erase them afterward.
Program the customer service numbers for your credit card companies (as well as your banks) in your phone so you can contact them quickly.
Don’t forget store-issued credit cards as well.
3. File a police report for a lost or stolen wallet. No, finding your lost wallet isn’t likely to be their first priority, but making a police report is an important way to protect yourself regardless.
Filing a report creates an official documentary record of the loss and your recovery efforts. This can prove quite valuable for any insurance claims, fraud liability resolution, identity theft problems, or other issues that might arise.
Provide as accurate and detailed an account as possible, with specific time frames and locations. Keep a copy of the report for your records.
4. Call the major credit bureaus to protect your credit rating. In the U.S., contacting one of the three major agencies -- Transunion, Equifax, and Experian -- should suffice, since they are required to share this information, but it can’t hurt to notify all three directly.
A fraud alert will be placed on your accounts, meaning that any attempt to extend further credit will require identity verification.
Anything you can do to avoid the mess of cleaning up damage to your credit score caused by fraud is well worth your time and effort.
There are pay options for fraud monitoring services, sometimes offered through your credit cards, that can alert you immediately of possible fraudulent activity.
5. Replace your lost identity cards. No one looks forward to visiting the Bureau of Motor Vehicles, but you shouldn’t expect the police to buy your story of a lost wallet (and driver’s license) if you are pulled over.
Each U.S. state has its own policies and procedures regarding replacing lost or stolen driver’s licenses, but expect to have to visit in person and pay a replacement fee.
Other ID cards -- school, work, etc. -- will need to be replaced as well.
6. Make a list of everything that was in your wallet. Try to remember as much as you can, and see if you can come up with anything else that needs to be reported or replaced.
Don’t forget about store discount cards or even a library card. These may seem like small potatoes compared to debit and credit cards, but they may permit access to personal information that you don't want in someone else's hands.
Basically, you want to start over from scratch in order to make the contents of your lost wallet as worthless as possible, both financially and in regards to your identity.

Community Q&A.

Question : I have lost my wallet and I am 12, I have looked everywhere. What do I do?
Answer : Don't panic. Keep looking and retrace your steps. If you went anywhere, check to see if your wallet was turned in by someone. If you still can't find it, tell a parent, they will help you replace whatever you had in your wallet (if possible).
Question : How would I find my child's wallet?
Answer : If a child has lost their wallet, retrace their steps until you find it. More likely than not, the child has simply misplaced it. If you still can't find it, you may want to report it missing to the police. Also, if the child had any credit cards inside the wallet, freeze them online immediately.
Question : How do you handle it appropriately if you lost your wallet at school?
Answer : Don't panic. Your first reaction might be that someone stole your wallet, but you should check everywhere before jumping to that conclusion. Check everywhere you might have left it. Pockets, backpack, classrooms, and your locker are all places where you might have left it. Dig deep in that bag! Retrace your steps. When was the last period you remember having your wallet? Go to the room where you remember having it. If it is not there, contact the teacher you had during that period and ask them if they or any students took it to give to you. Go to the lost and found. Ask the Public Safety or Main Office if anyone has brought in a wallet. They will take it from there.
Question : I lost my purse, but I believe it was stolen. Is there a possibility of finding it?
Answer : The chances of finding it are very low. Someone probably has seen it and taken it. Still, try checking if it's been handed in.
Question : What should I do if a customer's wallet was found, but returned with missing cash?
Answer : You are not responsible for missing cash.
Question : My wallet was stolen; it had all my identification in it including my social security card. What do I need to do to get the DMV to issue me another ID?
Answer : You'll have to check with your local DMV for exact instructions, but usually they need two forms of ID, most commonly social security card, birth certificate, and/or passport. If you don't have a passport, you may have to use your birth certificate to get a replacement social security card before you can replace your license/ID, but like I said, check with the DMV.
Question : If my wallet is stolen in Europe, should I report it when I get back home?
Answer : No, report it to the local authorities. The police in your home country will likely not be able to help.
Question : I lost my wallet in school today. How can I figure out if my friend stole it?
Answer : If you really think someone stole it, tell a teacher, principal, guidance counselor, etc. They might be able to review security footage, and/or talk to the person or people you suspect to find out the truth.
Question : How do I get someone to give me back my wallet if they stole it?
Answer : If you know the person, ask them to give it back. If they don't, that is stealing. If you don't know them, file a police report and freeze all your credit cards immediately.

Tips.

Don't keep all your cash in your wallet. Get a money clip to hold some of it in, or keep some at home in a safe place and only carry what you think you may need. This way, you reduce the amount of cash you may lose if you lose your wallet.
Periodically during the day, make sure you still have your wallet. It takes only a second to do, and it gives you a better chance of finding your wallet if you have just lost it. Get in the habit of checking regularly: every time you get up to go, while you're walking, etc. A light touch of your back pocket or a quick look in your purse will give you a clear indication.
If you keep your wallet in your back pocket, make sure the pocket is not stretched out. Your wallet will most likely stay in your pocket if the wallet is not too thick and your pocket is tight.
Keep your cards separately in a card holder. When you lose a wallet you can still use your cards, and when you lose cards/cardholder, you will still have cash.
If you regularly keep your wallet in your back pocket, try to wear pants that have a button on the back pocket, and use it.
Do not keep your wallet in your back pocket when you travel, or are in crowded places, unless it is secured with a chain. This extra level of security nearly eliminates the chance of someone taking it from you. Or, for even more security, use a money belt.
Write your phone number and small message on a piece of paper or card and put it in a visible compartment of the wallet. Make it easier for an honest person to return the wallet to you.
Make sure you write down important account numbers before you lose your wallet, or check your paper or electronic bills for the account numbers and contact information. In the case that you do lose your wallet, these numbers will be critical to know.
Good places to check for your wallet include recently worn clothing (pants pockets, etc.) and your clothes dryer.

Warnings.
Never store pin numbers, passwords or your Social Security number in your wallet.
June 25, 2020

How to Fundraise.


There's no question that charities, nonprofits, PTAs, clubs and many other groups need to raise funds. The question is, how to do it effectively. This article introduces several ways that your group can raise funds for its projects.

Method 1 Preparing to Fundraise.
1. Define your needs. This is the most important first step in fundraising. To effectively raise money, you have to know what you're fundraising for in the first place. Take the time to figure out your group's needs and budget the costs to meet them.
2. Develop the language. Now that you have identified your needs, you need to articulate them. Develop some language describing what you need, why you need it, how it will help the community you serve, and how much it will cost. You may not need all of this written language for every fundraising effort, but you'll appreciate having it on hand when it's required.
3. Develop a method to track donations and donor information. For legal, accounting and internal tracking purposes, you will need the capacity to record and track donations and donor information. Your method can be a simple spreadsheet, or a complex, custom database, but you must have a usable tool.
4. Get staff or volunteers to do the work. Fundraising is work, no doubt about it. You will need capable, reliable people to manage records, staff events, stuff envelopes, solicit donations, write emails, update websites and more. Your board should definitely be involved in fundraising. You can also recruit volunteers from your constituency, from local service organizations, colleges and universities, or from online services like Volunteer Match.

Method 2 Legal Issues.
The intricate legal issues surrounding fundraising are governed by the IRS code and individual state laws. Here is an overview of the most critical issues.
1. Understand tax deductibility. Many donations to charity are tax deductible, but not all are. In order to do so you must be a 501 c 3 or have the right to use another group's 501 c 3 to process your donations.
2. Disclose whether goods or services were provided in exchange for the donation. If your organization provided anything in exchange for the donation, you must say that in your acknowledgement letter. This is called a quid pro quo contribution. An example of a quid pro quo contribution would be if you made a donation of $100 and got a cookbook valued at $30 in exchange. Only $70 of this contribution is deductible.
You usually need not worry about very small items like a refrigerator magnet or a pen.
For quid pro quo contributions, you must provide an acknowledgement if the cash donation is $75 or greater, even if the deductible part is less than $75.
3. Provide acknowledgement letters. Acknowledgement letters are important for a few reasons. They are the right thing to do, of course, but they also provide the donor with a record of their donation for tax purposes. The IRS requires that an acknowledgement letter be provided for any gift of $250 or more.
Acknowledgements must be written, but can be electronic or printed.
Although the threshold is $250, it's good practice to acknowledge every gift you receive, even if it's $5.
4. Register your charity (optional). 40 states in the U.S. require charities to register with a state agency in order to solicit donations from residents of those states. Solicitation can include any type of request, whether by mail, online or by phone. Check online to see whether you are required to register.
5. Talk to a professional. The best way to understand the legal issues in fundraising is to get professional advice. Check with your financial staff, an attorney or an accountant who specializes in nonprofit finance if you have any questions at all about the law.

Method 3 Fundraising Events.
1. Understand the method. A fundraising event is a party or gathering intended to raise money for an organization, ranging from formal NGOs to informal clubs. Typically, revenue comes in through ticket sales, and in some cases, corporate sponsorships. Although events are notorious for being expensive, time consuming and not terribly cost effective, they don't have to be that way. Here are some ideas for simple fundraising events that don't require a lot of money or energy.
2. Hold a house party. House parties are a tried and true method of fundraising. A house party is a small event hosted at the home of someone close to your organization. The host invites friends and contacts whom he or she believes might be interested in donating to your program. After mingling and refreshments, the president or director of your organization makes a short presentation about your group. Guests have an opportunity to ask questions, then, the host invites them make a donation. Some tips on house parties.
A house party does not have to be fancy. It can be a dinner party or a cocktail party. It can have 20 guests or 6. Refreshments can be catered, or as simple as coffee and cake.
Make sure that the host of the party directly asks guests to donate.
Have staff and board members on hand to mingle and answer questions.
If appropriate, consider asking a program participant to attend. It can be very powerful and compelling for donors to meet and speak with someone who has received your organization's services.
3. Make a booth. If you go to the manager of a store, like Walmart, the you can ask to make a booth in front of the store. This can be very successful.
4. Hold a restaurant fundraiser. Many restaurants have established fundraising programs whereby nonprofits can receive a percentage of sales on a designated day. These programs are very common among big chain restaurants, but smaller establishments offer them too. Search online to find out what restaurants in your area offer this fundraising tool. Once you've identified a restaurant, follow these tips.
Understand the terms. Restaurants have different guidelines and rules for fundraisers. Some donate a percentage of the entire bill; some exclude alcohol sales. Some require that customers present a coupon or other document for your group to receive a donation, others don't. Make sure you are clear on what's expected so you can take full advantage of the event.
Get the word out. Make sure your constituents and everyone in your group knows about your event. Encourage them to invite their friends too.
Provide materials. Set out brochures, postcards or other items to let diners know that their purchases are supporting your organization.
5. Hold a dessert party. A dessert party is a fun, simple and inexpensive event. Hold the party at the home of a board member or other friend of your organization. Ask volunteers to make desserts in single serving sizes. Provide coffee, tea and soft drinks. Sell tickets at a modest price. Enjoy the sweets!
6. Hold a craft fair. A craft fair is an easy and very inexpensive fundraising event. Your organization rents table space to vendors to display and sell their products. If you like, you can also ask vendors to donate a percentage of their sales to your group. If you have a facility you'd like to show off, a craft fair is a great way to get the community to visit.
Add to the fun and interest of the event by scheduling performances, speakers or other entertainment throughout the day.
Make sure there are opportunities for customers and visitors to learn about and make a donation to your organization during the event.
Consider holding a raffle as an additional way to generate revenue at the craft fair.
7. Sell your passion. If you want a fun and passionate fundraiser that doesn't take a lot of planning, consider using LoveMyHeart.org. It's simple, fun, and everyone loves the Love My Heart shirts you sell! Not to mention there are no out of pocket costs like the other events listed here!

Method 4 Fundraising Online.
1. Understand the method. In some ways, fundraising online is not much different than fundraising in the physical world. You still need to be able to effectively communicate your needs, tell stories that illustrate your work, and motivate people to make a donation to your cause. The difference is that while in the physical world you may have time to build a relationship with a potential donor, that isn't always the case online. They may only come across your website once, so you may only have one shot at convincing them to give. Therefore, it's even more important to communicate your message in a compelling way. Here are some ways to do it.
2. Set up a web page. The most basic way to raise funds online is to set up a webpage for donations, then let people know to go to that page to make a contribution. Include the link in written and electronic communications you send to your members or constituents. Make sure it's accessible from your home page, and other pages of your website. Keep these tips in mind.
Most donations made online are done by credit card transaction. If you are not already set up to accept credit cards, there are a number of companies that provide credit card donation processing services for a fee.
Offer the option of recurring donations. Recurring donations can benefit your organization in a few ways. Many donors find it easier to make a larger donation if its split up into quarterly or monthly payments; some very committed donors may want to make an annual donation to you. Make this as easy as possible by setting up recurring payments. Ask your online donation processing service how to offer this to your donors.
Some organizations opt to accept online donations through PayPal. Visit PayPal's website to learn more.
3. Sign up with an affiliate program. Fundraising with an affiliate program is a lot like making commissions off sales. An online merchant or shopping portal provides the charity with a unique affiliate link. Shoppers use the link to access the merchant, make purchases, and the charity receives a percentage of the sales. Here are some tips for affiliate fundraising.
There are dozens of merchants and portals that offer this fundraising tool. You can sign up for more than one to maximize your potential donations.
Consider your constituents. When you select a merchant, consider where your constituents are likely to shop online. It might be a good idea to do a survey or ask a few key players to make sure you're choosing well.
Get the word out. Most affiliate programs offer widgets or banners that are easy to drop into your website. Include these on your website and in electronic communications to let your supporters know how they can help.
4. Consider crowdfunding. Crowdfunding combines online fundraising with social media to help individuals and organizations raise funds. it's a way for many individuals to pool their resources and donations to get projects funded. Donors can typically contribute as little as $1.00, making it easy for lots of people to participate. There are several websites set up for crowdfunding. Funds-seekers create a campaign page describing their project or organization, and explain how the funds will be used and what, if any, benefit donors will receive for participating. Here are some tips on fundraising using crowdfunding.
Crowdfunding is particularly well suited for funding discrete projects. Rather than launch a campaign asking for all the money you need to operate a program, consider how you can break it up a bit. For example, a school music program could launch a campaign to purchase 10 instruments for low income students.
Articulate your needs and your project clearly. The clearer you can be about why you need the money and how you will use it, the better.
Get creative. Add media to your campaign page to increase readers' interest. Videos, images and success stories are great for telling your story, so use them to your advantage.

Community Q&A.

Question : How old do I have to be to start a fundraiser?
Community Answer : You can do a lot of these fundraising activities at any age, but you'll probably want an adult around to help you manage the money and make sure it goes where it is supposed to. The crowdfunding websites may require you to be 18.
Question : What other types of fundraising are there?
Community Answer : Bottle drives, bake sales, car washes, donation jars at local stores, yard sales, an action of donated goods from local stores, etc.
Question : My church has to gather funds (about 9-10 thousand) to be able to pay for a youth mission trip. They rely mostly on donations, and other methods may be wrong. Do you have any suggestions for this situation?
Community Answer : You can always advertise your fundraising idea as a way to create fellowship and bring new members into the church. Have a community potluck where your church members bring in dishes to feed a large group and outsiders make donations to eat.
Question : How do I fundraise in an apartment?
Community Answer : You can ask your landlord or super if you can use some space in the lobby. You can also organize a fundraiser outside or at a nearby park or other facility.

Tips

There are many ways to raise funds, but some ways are far better than others. If you want a quick, free fundraiser that doesn't take a lot of planning, your options are limited.
You can host a sports match between two teams and charge an entrance fee. That way you can ask for donations from the guests.
May 07, 2020


How to Write a Proposal Letter.

A proposal letter is a professional letter that states, in an abbreviated form, why an organization, institution, or company should support a professional venture of yours. You might write a proposal letter for a number of reasons—for example, to request a grant, a business loan, or that a publisher accept your book idea. There are general formats, details, and arguments you should make in each instance, although the specifics will vary based on the recipient’s requirements. In all cases, however, you must be succinct, informative, and persuasive.

Method 1 Writing a Grant Proposal Letter.
1. Review the eligibility guidelines so you can offer proof throughout the letter. Most public and private organizations that issue grants for research or other projects have a detailed list of eligibility requirements. You must meet these requirements to be eligible, and you must confirm to the organization that you meet these requirements.
Check the organization’s website or call or email them to get complete and up-to-date eligibility guidelines.
Instead of dedicating an entire paragraph to explaining how you meet each requirement, weave this information into the body of your letter as you write it. For instance, if the organization has certain requirements concerning the types of projects the money can be used for and separate requirements for how that money will be allotted, describe these issues in separate paragraphs instead of trying to cram all the information into one.
2. Introduce your organization to an appropriate degree in the first paragraph. If you are not in regular contact with the grant organization, you should introduce your organization in fairly substantial detail in the first body paragraph of your letter. For instance, provide the name of your organization, what it does, why it does it, and who benefits from your organization's work.
If you have had previous contact with the grant agency or organization, don’t rehash basic information the recipient already knows. Instead, mention any changes or developments your organization has made since you were last in contact.
3. Explain your need for the grant and its importance to your organization. Make this the central focus of the second body paragraph. Tell the recipient what your organization hopes to accomplish and what group or groups in society are the focus for your efforts. Also explain why your research, charitable effort, or venture is important and what sort of outcome you are expecting to have.
Balance optimism and realism in this section and throughout the letter. Don’t make outlandish claims like “ending poverty” with this grant. Instead, explain how the grant will help “alleviate food insecurity for at-risk children both before and after school hours.”
4. Provide a timeline and other practical details on how the grant will be used. In the third paragraph, include realistic content about the timeline your project will require, the locations you will operate in and/or impact, and similar information.
State when the project will begin and how long you expect it to run. Be as precise as possible: “If the grant is approved, we intend to operate the program from August 25, 2020 through August 24, 2021.”
Some grants are location-specific. If this is true of the grant you apply for, you will need to indicate where your organization is based, the geographic area that will be studied during your project, or the geographic area that will benefit from the project.
5. Mention how much the project will cost and how much grant money you are requesting. Be as specific as possible so that the grant organization can get an idea of how crucial its funding is. Provide this information in its own paragraph or integrated into the prior paragraph on grant use details.
Particularly if you are applying for a grant without a pre-determined funding amount, be sure to state precisely how much money you are requesting.
Be precise in your cost estimates and provide supporting documentation as enclosures in your application packet, as per the organization’s application instructions.
6. Include any additional information requested in the application instructions. The grant agency or organization may require additional information that should be included in your proposal letter, or it may require separate documents as enclosures in your packet. Refer to the application instructions carefully and frequently, and contact the organization whenever you have questions or need clarification.
Additional documents may include financial budgets, past financial records, and past records indicating the success of similar projects performed by your organization in the past.
Make sure your grant request isn’t delayed or even rejected because you failed to provide a required piece of information.

Method 2 Writing a Business Financing Proposal Letter.
1. Refer to any prior contact at the beginning of the letter. If your business is already established and has a previous relationship with the lender or funder you are contacting, be sure to mention that prior contact. This doesn’t guarantee success for your current request, of course, but it may strengthen your status as a “good bet.”
If you interacted with a specific contact at the company, mention that individual by name. For example: “Nearly seven years ago, I worked with Jane Goodson at your company to help secure the funding that got my business off the ground.”
2. Discuss the size, scope, and focus of your company. Include your mission statement and a short description of the products or services your company provides. To make your case for funding more convincing, also include details like the number of customers served, the number of employees, and information about any administrative boards.
Providing a brief summary of your business helps the funder get a better understanding of who you are, what you do, and why you are a good choice for funding.
Aim to spend 1 paragraph on this content, in most cases.
3. Pinpoint the amount of funding you need and why you need it. Take a paragraph to both identify precisely how much funding you are requesting and explain why you need financial help from the funder. Describe what, specifically, the funding will be used for.
For example: “The $50,000 loan we are requesting will enable us to expand production in our highest-profit product range and grow sales by an estimated 20% within 2 years.”
You may need to include budget data that spells out how funds have been used in the past and projections on how the funds will be used this time around. This additional data may need to be included as a separate attachment.
Regardless of how much information you include in the body of the letter itself, you should always state the total cost of the project and how much of that cost will be covered by the funder's support.
4. Explain how you will use the funding, specifically but succinctly. You need to provide enough information about how the provided funds will be used to make the prospective funder curious and excited by the prospect. Provide key highlights in a paragraph, mentioning specifics but not going into excessive detail.
This should only be a summary. With a full-scale proposal, this information can take pages. This information should take no more than a half page when writing a shorter proposal letter, however. Provide separate enclosures as needed.
5. Offer to provide additional details at the close of your letter. Since a proposal letter is shorter than a full proposal, make it clear that you are willing and able to provide additional details as requested. Do this instead of sending excessive amounts of information that has not been requested with your proposal letter.
For instance, you last sentences might read: “Should you need any further information, please feel free to contact me directly by phone or email. I would also be happy to meet with you at your offices.”
6. Include any necessary enclosures with your packet. Check over the application requirements again. If the prospective funder requires additional documentation along with your proposal letter, include it in the envelope as an enclosure. Note the enclosures in your proposal letter.
Possible documentation might include a list of board members, copies of your tax documents and financial documents, and resumes of key staff members.

Method 3 Writing a Book Proposal Letter.
1. Check the submission guidelines before starting the letter. Every publishing agency and publisher has its own set of submission guidelines. These can usually be found on the publisher's website—if not, call, email, or write to the company and request a copy of their guidelines before proceeding.
Submission guidelines outline the types of books a publisher or agent will accept, as well as the required format and content for the proposal letter.
2. Spend the first few paragraphs describing your book. Right from the start, you need to convince the agent or publisher that the book you want to submit will be successful in the marketplace. In the first paragraph, use around 300 words to write a brief but intriguing summary of your book. Write a second paragraph that describes the essentials of the book, such as genre, word count, and likely market.
If you’re writing fiction or creative non-fiction, outline your narrative and describe your main characters in the first or second paragraph.
State whether or not the book is finished at some point in these opening paragraphs. Note, however, that some publishers will not accept proposals for unfinished works.
3. Identify your expected target market and competitors. Use a paragraph to thoroughly describe the demographic your book is aimed at. If possible, provide provide statistics and make sure they address your target demographic in specific, rather than general, terms.
Perform a competitive analysis in this section. List a few main competitors to your book, explain how well these competitors do in the market, and describe why your book will offer something its competitors do not.
4. Provide biographical information, especially in relation to the book’s subject matter. Describe yourself and explain why you are the perfect person to write this book. Don’t fabricate or exaggerate details, but do put a positive spin on your personal bio.
Mention any writing experience and publishing experience you have.
Mention any experience you have with your book’s subject matter. For instance, if you’ve written a book about fashion and have experience as a fashion designer, include that in your letter.
5. Summarize your intended role in the marketing plan. Provide specific information about what your plans are concerning the promotion of your book once it gets published. Be specific, not general. Do not state what you are willing to do, but rather what you will do.
Instead of writing “I would be willing,” for example, go with “I will.”
Possible forms of marketing include professional blogs, book signings, and professional conferences.
6. Include a more detailed synopsis as a separate enclosure. You will usually need to include a 1-2 page synopsis that describes your book in fuller detail than your 300-word summary at the start of the proposal letter. Unless otherwise directed, include this as an enclosure, not as part of the main body of the letter.
Provide a full summary of the entire plot and purpose of your book. Include all the major details about the plot and significant sub-plots.
7. Enclose a sample table of contents and an extract, if requested. Some publishers expect you to send along a table of contents, an extract from the work, or both. Follow the specific submission guidelines provided by the publisher, and get clarification if needed.
If you do not yet have a table of contents, you may instead need to provide a brief summary of each chapter.
Some publishers and agents will request the first few pages or chapters of your book. Others may not specify which part of the book the extract needs to be pulled from. Regardless, the extract should be an example of your strongest writing.

Method 4 Formatting the Letter.
1. Start by placing your address at the top left of the letter. In the upper left corner of the letter, write your street address on the first line, then the remainder of your address (such as city, state, and ZIP code in the U.S.) on the second line. Left align the text (here and throughout the letter) and single space between lines.
You do not need to include your name or title in the return address, since this information is provided in the closing section.
Do not type out the return address at the top of the letter if you are using paper with a formal letterhead that already includes the address.
2. Include the current date below your address. Double-space after the return address and type the current date in "month-day-year" format in the U.S., or “day-month-year” in nations that typically use that format. The month should be spelled out, but the day and year should be represented by numerical values.[
For instance, write “October 8, 2019” (month-day-year) or “8 October 2019” (day-month-year).
If you are not using a return address because your paper has a formal letterhead, the date should be the first piece of information you add at the top left.
3. Type in the recipient's name, title, and address. Double-space after the date, then use a single-spaced line for each of the following: recipient name; recipient title (if applicable); recipient street address; recipient city, state, etc.
Alternatively, you can put the person’s name and title together on one line—for instance: “Mr. Thomas Jones, Director of Operations.”
Use the person’s personal title—Mr., Ms., Mrs., Dr., etc.—if you know their preference. It’s generally acceptable to assume “Mr.” for a male and “Ms.” for a female. However, you can instead choose to exclude the personal title and write “Thomas Jones” instead of “Mr. Thomas Jones.”
The entire block should be left-aligned and single-spaced.
It’s preferable to write to a specific individual at a company instead of writing a general letter to anyone who may read it.
4. Include an appropriate salutation to the recipient. Double-space after the recipient's address and type the salutation "Dear" followed by the recipient's personal title and last name. End the salutation with a colon, not a comma: “Dear Ms. Amy Watson:”
If you do not know the recipient's preferred personal title and prefer not to assume either “Mr.” or “Ms.”, skip the personal title and use the recipient's full name: “Dear Amy Watson:”
Double space after the salutation as well.
5. Write the body of your letter using single-spaced block paragraphs. The exact content and length of your proposal letter will of course vary depending on the type of proposal you’re writing. The format of the letter should remain the same for each type, though.
Single space and left justify each paragraph.
Do not indent the first line of your paragraphs.
Double space between paragraphs.
6. Use an appropriate closing and signature. Double-space after the final body paragraph and include a formal closing, followed by a comma. Hit the "Enter" key four times before typing your full name and personal title—this blank space is for your signature.
Capitalize only the first word of your formal closing—That is, “Thank you” instead of “Thank You.”
Common closing options include “Thank you,” “Sincerely,” “Regards,” “Best regards,” and “Best wishes.”
Add a comma after the formal closing.
7. Mention any enclosures below your signature and name and title line. If you send any enclosures with your proposal letter, like a resume with an employment proposal or financial information with a business proposal, indicate this by double-spacing after your typed name and title and typing "Enclosure” or “Enclosures.”
You also have the option of listing each document you are enclosing. Use the following format: “Enclosures: resume, writing sample, 3 letters of reference.”
8. Review the letter for spelling, grammar, and formatting errors. Run your finished letter through a spell-check program, but don't stop there. Read it out loud to check for any awkward phrasing or grammar errors. If possible, have someone else read through it as well, since they may spot errors that you've missed.
Don't let a silly spelling error or misplaced comma reduce the impact of an otherwise carefully-crafted letter. Proofreading is important!

FAQ.

Question : How do I write a proposal for a musical tour?
Answer : dentify the potential donors and outline your plans for the tour, including the bands involved, the venues where you will be playing, and an estimate of the upfront costs and potential profit. If this will be for charity, clearly identify the cause.
Question : How do I write a proposal letter to the ministry of safety, wanting to supply them with stop signs and police gear?
Answer : A proposal is generally understood to mean something the receiver has not yet thought of. "Dear city council, after reading your urban planning blueprints, I propose to plant more trees" rather than "I see you're looking for trees and I want to sell you some." Governments are typically bound by public tenders when they buy equipment, so if you want to sell signs and gear, you have to submit your offer when they issue a tender and hope yours is the best of all offers received.

Tips.
If someone else typed the letter for you, double space after the enclosures line and include their initials. For example, add “HU” if Hilary Underwood typed the letter for you.
April 07, 2020


How to Help Elderly Parents With Finances.


Helping your elderly parents with finances can be a tricky thing to do. It can be frustrating for you and can cause hurt or embarrassment for your parents. If you go about it with discretion and respect, though, you can streamline your parents’ finances and remove a lot of stress from your and their lives. By communicating properly, budgeting, and simplifying their affairs, you’ll be able to help your elderly parents with their finances. In the end, you and your parents might be come closer, and you'll both have a lot less to worry about.



Method 1 Budgeting.

1. Find out their sources of income. Sit down with your parents and ask them to list their sources of income. If they are unable to list their income, keep an eye on their mailbox and wait for checks to arrive. In addition, contact their bank to find out if they have recurring direct deposits into their accounts. Some sources of income might include.

Social security.

Pensions.

Retirement accounts that include stocks, CDs, and bonds.

Real estate holdings.

2. List their expenses. After you’ve determined your parents’ income, you’ll need to list their expenses. You can also do this by sitting down with them and asking them to list expenses. However, if they can’t remember, you’ll have to wait on bills to arrive in the mail or for businesses to call them asking for payment. Some common expenses include.

Phone.

Cable and internet.

Utilities like electricity, gas, and water.

3. Meet with professionals who manage their affairs. In addition to getting records from your parents and tracking them down yourself, you should also meet with any professionals who manage aspects of your parents’ affairs. This includes lawyers, accountants, management companies, insurance agents and brokers. They will likely have valuable information about your parents' finances you need.

Don't be intimidated by professionals you may have to meet with. In most cases, they'll be happy to help you and your parents.

4. Cut expenses, if needed. Once you’ve gathered a list of their income and expenses, you’ll have a very good idea of what they can afford and what they can’t afford. When you have this information, start trimming expenses. This way, your parents’ income and savings will last them a lot longer than it would otherwise. Some things to cut include:

Cable.

Very large life insurance policies.

Magazine and newspaper subscriptions.

Charitable donations.

Cars or homes that have been financed.

5. Raise money for your parents, if they need it. In the case that your parents don’t have the income to meet their expenses, you’ll have to raise money to help them. There are a variety of things you can do without reaching into your own savings account. Consider:

Selling their home or getting them a reverse mortgage. A reverse mortgage is a loan that the borrower does not need to pay back until they sell the home.

Auctioning cars and other valuable possessions. Your parents might have valuable artwork, a car collection, or a piece of land somewhere that could be sold. That money may be just enough to meet their expenses.

Avoid taking loans or selling your parents' property before talking to them about it.

6. Find out if there are entitlements they are eligible for. In addition to identifying their current sources of income, you may be able to find entitlements or other sources of income for your elderly parents. To do this, check with your local, state/regional, or national governments. Don't worry, though, there are many resources available that will make this search easy.

For people in the United States, visit http://www.benefitscheckup.org to identify new sources of financial help for your parents.



Method 2 Organizing Their Affairs.

1. Get a power of attorney. A power of attorney will give you the legal right to act on your parents’ behalf in managing financial (and legal) aspects of their life. As a result, you’ll have the right to talk to your parents’ insurance companies, bank, pension administrators, and more. Without a power of attorney, you’ll have serious problems managing your parents’ finances.

2. Reduce the number of credit cards and checking accounts they have. Shut down all checking accounts and close all credit cards except for one or two. It will be very difficult for you to monitor their finances if they have many cards and accounts. Ultimately, it’ll be easier for you to follow one card and one checking account.

Verify that accounts and cards you intend to close do not have automatic payments or direct deposits attached to them.

3. Set up automated payments. Contact all the businesses that your parents have regular or recurring payments with. Provide them with a credit card number or a bank account number from which they can draft money that they are owed.

You may be able to do this through the business’s website.

4. Hire someone to manage their finances. If your parents’ finances are too complicated or their estate is too large for you to manage on your own, you may need to hire a third party to help you. In this event, a financial advisor, management company, or a law firm may be able to help you help your parents.

Determine if you or your parents have enough money/income to employ a professional financial manager.

5. Get their tax information. Ask your parents for their prior income tax returns. If they can’t find them, ask their accountant. With their tax information, you’ll be able to file the current year’s taxes, consolidate loans, and much more.

If you are unable to get tax information from your parents or their accountant, visit https://www.irs.gov/individuals/get-transcript to get transcripts of prior years taxes. Remember, though, you’ll need to have a power of attorney to do so.

6. Have them write or update their will. One aspect of your parents’ finances that they might neglect is their will. Their will is important as it will allow their estate to be settled relatively easily if they pass away. While this will probably be a tough conversation for both of you, you should ask them to write a will.

7. Document everything you do. Keep good records of everything you do for your parents. This includes keeping copies of checks you write, holding onto receipts for things you pay for, and taking notes of complicated financial issues. If you don’t document things well, you could find yourself in a legal battle with a sibling later on.



Method 3 Communicating Properly.

1. Ask if they want help. Before you take matters into your own hands and try to take control of your parents’ finances, you should ask them if they want help. Depending on their personality and position, they may respond negatively or affirmatively. Whatever their response, you'll at least open up communication and let your parents know that you are thinking of them.

If your parents are terminally ill or intellectually diminished, you may not need to ask them. Instead, talk to them and let them know you are going to try to organize their affairs.

2. Respect their wishes. Depending on your parents’ circumstances, you should respect their wishes as best as you can. If you disregard their wishes, you’ll probably alienate them and poison your relationship. By respecting their wishes, you’ll turn managing their finances into a positive experience.

3. Keep them involved. While you may be tempted to just take care of everything yourself, make sure that you keep your parents part of the discussion for a long as you can. This is important, as you don’t want them to ever be surprised about where they stand financially. In addition, if they stay active, they might fare better in terms of their health.

Schedule monthly meetings with your parents to talk about their finances. At the very least, take some time to let them know where they stand.



Tips.

Keep an eye out for signs of dementia; this is a signal to start taking great control of your parents' assets.

If you are working with your parents' finances, be sure and keep siblings informed in writing. This will help alleviate any tension about financial matters when your parents pass away, as that sibling or those siblings will be aware of what the state of your parents' finances are.

Warnings.

Educate your parents about scams. Request that they not mail any large payments to anyone for any reason without discussing it with you first.
February 25, 2020


How to React when Your Spouse Wants to Open a Separate Bank Account.


Money is the leading cause of stress in relationships and disagreements about money can often lead to divorce if they are not handled properly and openly. Your spouse requesting to open a separate bank account can be a difficult issue to navigate as a couple. In the moment, it may come as a surprise and bring up negative emotions, such as suspicion or anger, which require a calm head and an open mind. In order to avoid any financial surprises like this, you should have open and frank conversations with your partner about your finances. It is important to determine your and your spouse’s motivations honestly before they become a problem. Finally, if you do end up having separate accounts, you can keep the peace in your relationship through good communication and by clearly dividing all debts and credits evenly.



Method 1 Communicating with Your Spouse.

1. Try to stay calm. If your spouse’s request comes as a shock, you may experience a wide array of emotions. You may feel hurt or betrayed that your spouse wants their own bank account. You may also feel angry or become suspicious of their motives. However, in the moment, the best thing that you can do is to try to stay calm. This will help you have a productive conversation with your partner about your finances.

Once you feel emotions well up, try slowly counting down from ten while taking deep breaths. This will help calm your body’s anxious response.

2. Ask your spouse why they need a separate account. After your spouse makes their request, ask them why they need the account. Talk with your partner about what the purpose is of the separate account. More importantly, discuss what it means for your relationship.

You might ask things like “Why do you need a separate account?” or “What is the separate account for?”

You may find that a separate account simply helps your spouse manage their money better. However, it may also be a sign of larger problems in your relationship.

3. Practice active listening. Be a good listener and pay attention to what your partner tells you. Listen to what they say and try not to be distracted by your own thoughts and emotions. Although this may be difficult when your emotions are high, active listening will ensure that you and your spouse communicate clearly and avoid any misunderstandings.

Make eye contact. Use facial expressions and head nods to indicate that you are listening.

You can also try paraphrasing. For example, "I hear you saying that you want a little financial independence. Is that right?"

4. Keep an open mind. Although a separate bank account may trigger feelings of suspicion and distrust, there may be valid reasons for your partner’s actions. For example, if your partner is accustomed to managing their finances in a certain way, a separate account may provide them with some autonomy. Try to keep these negative thoughts at bay and keep an open mind while you discuss what a separate account means to your relationship.

Try writing about why you are offended or hurt by this to gain a better understanding of your feelings. For example, you may be harboring negative feelings of inferiority if your spouse makes more money than you do.

5. Make your feelings clear. It is important that you clearly communicate your emotions to your partner. Let your spouse know how their actions have affected you. If the new account is a surprise, express to them any hurt feelings that you may have, as well as any fears concerning the health of your relationship.

You might say things like “This new account really worries me” or “I’m hurt that you’d open this account without talking to me.”

6. Follow up with your spouse. After you have your initial conversation, make a point to talk about it more in the future. Do not simply have the initial discussion and then never broach the subject again. Ask your partner to talk with you about the account after you have had some time to think about it. This will allow your emotions to settle a little, which can give you some perspective.

For example, pick a time a few days after your initial discussion to revisit the subject. If you are still upset about the separate account, you might want to meet at home to avoid creating a scene in public.

You might say something like “Can we talk about this more tomorrow?” or “I think that we need to talk about this more in the future.”



Method 2 Moving Forward Together.

1. Talk about your financial goals. In order to avoid any financial surprises, you should have frank and honest conversations with your partner about your values and financial goals. Talk about what you want to save for, how you envision your finances being managed, and how each of you will contribute to the household income. Although you do not need to agree on everything, you should try to come to a consensus on how to manage your money.

You should ask your partner things like “What things do we want to save for?” and “How much should we save for retirement?”

2. Discuss your finances regularly. Besides conversations about your financial goals, you should talk about your finances on a regular basis. Sit down and talk with your partner about your bills, savings, and other assets that you are managing. It is important that you and your spouse are honest about what resources you have and how you are actively managing your finances. If you have children, then doing this can also set a good example for them.

For example, once a month, make a time to meet with your partner and just talk about your finances.

3. Manage your finances together. As a couple, you and your partner should put together a household budget. Then you should sit down together and balance your budget every month. This will ensure that you are both invested in and aware of what is going on with your finances.

For example, after you have been paid but before you pay your major bills, you and your spouse should set a time to manage your resources each month.

There are helpful free digital tools available for managing finances, such as Budget Pulse.

4. Have joint and separate accounts. One easy way to maintain financial transparency is by opening joint and separate banking accounts. Put your money for bills and other shared expenses in a joint account, which you both manage. Then decide on how much money will go into separate accounts for individual spending. This will help you manage your household expenses while maintaining some autonomy.

Although the accounts may be separate, you should consider putting both of your names on the accounts in case one of you becomes incapacitated.

5. Maintain transparency. Make sure that you and your partner are able to see each other’s accounts. Although you may find that separate and shared accounts are more practical for your relationship, you and your partner should still be able to look at how each of you are managing your money. A little transparency will help you build trust and keep you on the same page financially.

However, it is important that you manage this transparency responsibly. Try not to become too critical of your partner’s personal spending habits or attempt to control how they spend their money. As long as they are not affecting your shared income, you should still respect their autonomy.

If your partner is too critical or controlling about how you manage your individual finances, let them know that you are capable of making your own decisions. Say something like “I can take care of myself” or “I’d appreciate it if you’d trust me.”



Method 3 Maintaining Separate Bank Accounts.

1. Divide expenses fairly. If you and your partner decide to have separate accounts, it is important that you find an equitable means of dividing household expenses. When you put together your household budget, talk with your partner about how much they can contribute to your shared expenses. It is important that you come to a consensus on how much each of you will contribute to your joints expenses each month.

For example, if your shared expenses are $2,000, make sure that you and your partner each contribute $1,000 from your personal accounts.

If one of your makes more money than the other, the person who makes more may need to pay a larger portion of the shared expenses. Talk about this to avoid any resentments or hard feelings.

2. Deposit funds evenly. Whenever you or your partner receives any extra income that you did not budget for, say from a work bonus or as a gift, you should find a way to split the money equitably. Talk with your partner about what accounts the money should be deposited in. Just as you need to divide all expenses evenly, you should also find equitable ways of divvying up extra income.

For example, if your partner gets a bonus, you may decide to keep half of the money in your partner’s account and put the rest in your joint savings account.

3. Save remaining balances. In addition to your budgeted joint savings, you and your partner might also consider saving money from your individual accounts. At the end of the month, you and your partner may decide to put the remaining balances from your individual accounts into a shared savings account. This will ensure that withdrawing from the savings account is a mutual decision.

For example, if you have a remaining balance of $100 in your personal account at the end of the month, deposit it in your shared savings account.


February 25, 2020


How to React when Your Spouse Wants to Open a Separate Bank Account.


Money is the leading cause of stress in relationships and disagreements about money can often lead to divorce if they are not handled properly and openly. Your spouse requesting to open a separate bank account can be a difficult issue to navigate as a couple. In the moment, it may come as a surprise and bring up negative emotions, such as suspicion or anger, which require a calm head and an open mind. In order to avoid any financial surprises like this, you should have open and frank conversations with your partner about your finances. It is important to determine your and your spouse’s motivations honestly before they become a problem. Finally, if you do end up having separate accounts, you can keep the peace in your relationship through good communication and by clearly dividing all debts and credits evenly.



Method 1 Communicating with Your Spouse.

1. Try to stay calm. If your spouse’s request comes as a shock, you may experience a wide array of emotions. You may feel hurt or betrayed that your spouse wants their own bank account. You may also feel angry or become suspicious of their motives. However, in the moment, the best thing that you can do is to try to stay calm. This will help you have a productive conversation with your partner about your finances.

Once you feel emotions well up, try slowly counting down from ten while taking deep breaths. This will help calm your body’s anxious response.

2. Ask your spouse why they need a separate account. After your spouse makes their request, ask them why they need the account. Talk with your partner about what the purpose is of the separate account. More importantly, discuss what it means for your relationship.

You might ask things like “Why do you need a separate account?” or “What is the separate account for?”

You may find that a separate account simply helps your spouse manage their money better. However, it may also be a sign of larger problems in your relationship.

3. Practice active listening. Be a good listener and pay attention to what your partner tells you. Listen to what they say and try not to be distracted by your own thoughts and emotions. Although this may be difficult when your emotions are high, active listening will ensure that you and your spouse communicate clearly and avoid any misunderstandings.

Make eye contact. Use facial expressions and head nods to indicate that you are listening.

You can also try paraphrasing. For example, "I hear you saying that you want a little financial independence. Is that right?"

4. Keep an open mind. Although a separate bank account may trigger feelings of suspicion and distrust, there may be valid reasons for your partner’s actions. For example, if your partner is accustomed to managing their finances in a certain way, a separate account may provide them with some autonomy. Try to keep these negative thoughts at bay and keep an open mind while you discuss what a separate account means to your relationship.

Try writing about why you are offended or hurt by this to gain a better understanding of your feelings. For example, you may be harboring negative feelings of inferiority if your spouse makes more money than you do.

5. Make your feelings clear. It is important that you clearly communicate your emotions to your partner. Let your spouse know how their actions have affected you. If the new account is a surprise, express to them any hurt feelings that you may have, as well as any fears concerning the health of your relationship.

You might say things like “This new account really worries me” or “I’m hurt that you’d open this account without talking to me.”

6. Follow up with your spouse. After you have your initial conversation, make a point to talk about it more in the future. Do not simply have the initial discussion and then never broach the subject again. Ask your partner to talk with you about the account after you have had some time to think about it. This will allow your emotions to settle a little, which can give you some perspective.

For example, pick a time a few days after your initial discussion to revisit the subject. If you are still upset about the separate account, you might want to meet at home to avoid creating a scene in public.

You might say something like “Can we talk about this more tomorrow?” or “I think that we need to talk about this more in the future.”



Method 2 Moving Forward Together.

1. Talk about your financial goals. In order to avoid any financial surprises, you should have frank and honest conversations with your partner about your values and financial goals. Talk about what you want to save for, how you envision your finances being managed, and how each of you will contribute to the household income. Although you do not need to agree on everything, you should try to come to a consensus on how to manage your money.

You should ask your partner things like “What things do we want to save for?” and “How much should we save for retirement?”

2. Discuss your finances regularly. Besides conversations about your financial goals, you should talk about your finances on a regular basis. Sit down and talk with your partner about your bills, savings, and other assets that you are managing. It is important that you and your spouse are honest about what resources you have and how you are actively managing your finances. If you have children, then doing this can also set a good example for them.

For example, once a month, make a time to meet with your partner and just talk about your finances.

3. Manage your finances together. As a couple, you and your partner should put together a household budget. Then you should sit down together and balance your budget every month. This will ensure that you are both invested in and aware of what is going on with your finances.

For example, after you have been paid but before you pay your major bills, you and your spouse should set a time to manage your resources each month.

There are helpful free digital tools available for managing finances, such as Budget Pulse.

4. Have joint and separate accounts. One easy way to maintain financial transparency is by opening joint and separate banking accounts. Put your money for bills and other shared expenses in a joint account, which you both manage. Then decide on how much money will go into separate accounts for individual spending. This will help you manage your household expenses while maintaining some autonomy.

Although the accounts may be separate, you should consider putting both of your names on the accounts in case one of you becomes incapacitated.

5. Maintain transparency. Make sure that you and your partner are able to see each other’s accounts. Although you may find that separate and shared accounts are more practical for your relationship, you and your partner should still be able to look at how each of you are managing your money. A little transparency will help you build trust and keep you on the same page financially.

However, it is important that you manage this transparency responsibly. Try not to become too critical of your partner’s personal spending habits or attempt to control how they spend their money. As long as they are not affecting your shared income, you should still respect their autonomy.

If your partner is too critical or controlling about how you manage your individual finances, let them know that you are capable of making your own decisions. Say something like “I can take care of myself” or “I’d appreciate it if you’d trust me.”



Method 3 Maintaining Separate Bank Accounts.

1. Divide expenses fairly. If you and your partner decide to have separate accounts, it is important that you find an equitable means of dividing household expenses. When you put together your household budget, talk with your partner about how much they can contribute to your shared expenses. It is important that you come to a consensus on how much each of you will contribute to your joints expenses each month.

For example, if your shared expenses are $2,000, make sure that you and your partner each contribute $1,000 from your personal accounts.

If one of your makes more money than the other, the person who makes more may need to pay a larger portion of the shared expenses. Talk about this to avoid any resentments or hard feelings.

2. Deposit funds evenly. Whenever you or your partner receives any extra income that you did not budget for, say from a work bonus or as a gift, you should find a way to split the money equitably. Talk with your partner about what accounts the money should be deposited in. Just as you need to divide all expenses evenly, you should also find equitable ways of divvying up extra income.

For example, if your partner gets a bonus, you may decide to keep half of the money in your partner’s account and put the rest in your joint savings account.

3. Save remaining balances. In addition to your budgeted joint savings, you and your partner might also consider saving money from your individual accounts. At the end of the month, you and your partner may decide to put the remaining balances from your individual accounts into a shared savings account. This will ensure that withdrawing from the savings account is a mutual decision.

For example, if you have a remaining balance of $100 in your personal account at the end of the month, deposit it in your shared savings account.


February 25, 2020