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How to Prepare for Economic Collapse.


An economic collapse means a breakdown of the national economy. It would be characterized by a long-term downturn in economic activity, increased poverty and a disruption of the social order, including protests, riots and possibly violence. In some cases, this collapse would be akin to a deep recession, with society still functioning basically as normal (just with more poverty). However, it could be much worse. You should prepare for the worst, but adjust your actions to the actual severity of the collapse. You can prepare for an economic collapse by preparing financially, stocking up on the essentials, and monitoring the economic indicators.

Method 1 Preparing Your Finances.
1. Start an emergency fund. If you are living paycheck to paycheck and you lose your job during an economic collapse, you are at risk for losing your home and living in poverty. It won’t be easy to find another job and replace your income. Your goal should be to save up enough to cover six months of expenses in your emergency fund.
If you are trying to get out of debt, save up an emergency fund of $1,000 and then apply all of your extra income to your debt. Once your debt is paid off, you can divert more money into your emergency fund.
Keep your emergency fund separate from your checking account so that you are not tempted to use the money. Put it in a low-risk, interest-bearing account such as a savings account, money market account or certificate of deposit (CD).
On the other hand, a complete economic collapse would leave you unable to access your bank account, because of the crash of the financial system. Additionally, your money may become useless or extremely devalued. Consider stocking other commodities that you could barter with in an economic collapse, like alcohol, precious metals (gold and silver), and fuel.
2. Have cash on hand. Depending on where you have it, money in your emergency fund might be hard to liquidate. Bonds, for example, must be sold, and other investments like CD’s might charge fees for early withdrawal. Also, if you have a savings account with an online bank instead of a brick-and-mortar institution, it might take several days to withdraw your money. It’s important to have cash that you can access easily, either from a savings account or a cash box in your home. This can tide you over in an emergency until you can access money in your emergency fund.
3. Generate an additional source of income. Start a home business as a second source of income. If you lose your job because of an economic collapse, it might be difficult or even impossible to find another job. Having an alternative source of income can help you to keep your home and avoid poverty. Choose your business idea based on skills that you have and things that you enjoy doing. In addition, think about how likely it will be that people will require these services in an economic collapse; people may need basic necessities like clean water or food more than they need an interior decorator.
Provide services to people in their homes, such as house cleaning, home organization, meal preparation, or interior decorating.
Sell goods you produce, such as baked goods, custom clothing or jewelry.
4. Get out of debt. In a financial collapse, many people are going to lose their jobs and their homes. To prepare for this possibility, you should make a plan to get out of debt as quickly as possible. This way, if you do lose your job, you don’t have to worry about finding a way to pay these bills. The worst kind of debt to have is credit card debt. Because of the high interest rates that many people have, carrying a balance on a credit card can cost you a great deal of money.
Create a budget in order to track your income and expenses. Make a plan to have a surplus of money left over at the end of the month to apply towards your debt. This means reducing your expenses and possibly finding additional work to supplement your income.
Organize your debt so you can make a plan to pay it off. You can choose from a few different methods for planning how to pay off your debt. Whichever method you choose, it is important to stick with it.
One method is to order your debts from smallest to biggest, regardless of the interest rate, and pay off the smallest debts first. This helps you build momentum.
Another method is laddering, which means paying off the debt with the highest interest rates first. This makes the most sense mathematically because it reduces the amount of interest expense you pay in the long-term.
That said, in a true economic collapse, your creditors would likely have other things to worry about than just finding you and recovering your debts. Additionally, currency may be greatly devalued or completely useless, meaning that the amount stated on your debt balance would be equally depressed or meaningless.

Method 2 Storing the Essentials.
1. Store emergency water. In the event of an economic collapse, it is possible that your power and water supply might be interrupted, or that you will not be able to pay for these things. You will need a supply of clean water for drinking, cooking and hygiene. You can purchase bottles of water or store water in your own containers. If you run out of water, you can take steps to sanitize contaminated water.
Store at least one gallon of water per person for a minimum of three days or for up to two weeks. Don’t forget to include pets in this equation.
If you are storing water in your own containers, wash them first with dish soap and water and sanitize them with a solution of 1 teaspoon of liquid chlorine bleach to a quart of water.
To make water safe, you can boil it and filter it through a clean cloth, paper towel or coffee filter.
2. Stockpile food. The kind of food you store up for an emergency is different from the groceries you purchase each week. You need to get food that is non-perishable, does not have to be refrigerated and will provide you with the nutrition you need to survive. It may be very different from the food you are used to eating, but you will be glad you have it if you ever need it.
Purchase food that does not have to be refrigerated or frozen so you don’t have to worry about power outages. These foods include canned goods, peanut butter and beef or turkey jerky.
Include foods highly nutritious foods that are easy to store, such as dried foods, nuts, beans, canned meat and vegetables and powdered milk.
For comfort foods, avoid snack foods that will quickly expire. Instead, stock up on spaghetti and spaghetti sauce, soups, sugar and honey for canning and baking, dried fruit, coffee and tea and hard candy.
If necessary, stock pile baby food and formula, Don’t forget to include pet food if you have pets.
Keep a manual can opener with your stockpile.
3. Start a garden. A garden allows you to continually have fresh, nutritious food to supplement your emergency food supply. Also, in an economic crisis the cost of living might skyrocket. Having a garden will help you to save money on your grocery bills. It will also allow you to be self-sufficient should a food shortage result from the financial collapse.
If you don’t have a lot of space, consider starting a container garden.
If you don’t have good soil, purchase humus soil or top soil. Add peat moss, composted manure and plant fertilizers.
Choose vegetables and herbs that are easy to grow, including beans and peas, carrots, greens like lettuce, cabbage, spinach and kale, potatoes and sweet potatoes, squash, tomatoes, broccoli, berries and melons.
4. Create an emergency kit. This is a collection of household items you might need in an emergency. In the event of an economic collapse, you may not be able to shop for these supplies, so it’s important to have them on hand. Keep your supplies in a container that’s easy to carry in case you have to evacuate for some reason.
Include an extra set of car keys, blankets, matches, a multi-use tool, maps of the area, a flashlight, a battery-powered or hand-cranked radio, extra batteries, matches and a cell phone and chargers.
Have some household liquid bleach on hand for disinfecting.
Make copies of all important documents, such as proof of address, deed/lease to home, passports, birth certificates and insurance policies.
Have a list of family and emergency contact numbers, Include baby supplies such as baby food, formula, diapers and bottles.
Remember pet supplies like food, collars, leashes and food bowls.
5. Gather first aid and medical supplies. You can purchase a first aid kit or put one together yourself. Either way, make sure it has all of the necessary supplies. Include personal items such as medications for yourself and members of your family. Check the kit regularly to make sure nobody has used any of the supplies. Also, check the expiration dates and replace expired items.
Keep a first aid manual with your first aid kit.
Include dressings and bandages, such as adhesive bandages in various sizes, sterile gauze pads and a gauze roll, adhesive tape, elastic bandages and sterile cotton balls.
Add equipment and other supplies, like latex or non-latex gloves, instant cold packs, a thermometer, safety pins to fasten splints or bandages, tweezers, scissors and hand sanitizer.
Have medicines for cuts and injuries, such as antiseptic solution like hydrogen peroxide, antibiotic ointment, calamine lotion for stings or poison ivy, hydrocortisone cream for itching and an eyewash solution.
Include contact lens solution if necessary.
Other medicines to have include pain and fever medicines like aspirin, acetaminophen or ibuprofen, antihistamines for allergies, decongestants for colds, anti-nausea medicine, anti-diarrhea medicine, antacids and laxatives.

Method 3 Preserving Food.
1. Preserve meat and fish. In an economic collapse, food stores could become dangerously low. If you are going to stock up on meat and fish ahead of time, you will need to know how to cure it. This will allow it stay fresh and edible much longer. Also, it can be stored at room temperature. This will be helpful in the event of a power outage.
2. Salt cure meat. Salt curing means using salt to kill the microbes that would spoil it. For every 100 pounds of meat, you need 8 pounds of salt, 2 ounces of saltpeter and 3 pounds of sugar. Apply the cure mixture directly to the meat. For bacon, allow the meat to cure for 7 days per inch of thickness. For ham, leave the mixture on for a day and a half per pound. After curing, rub off the salt under running water and allow it to dry.
If the outdoor temperature is expected to rise above 40 degrees Fahrenheit, you will need to allow the meat to cure in a meat locker.
If the outdoor temperature is below freezing, allow an extra day for curing.
3. Smoke cure meat. Wood smoking meat not only adds flavor, but it also protects your meat from pests and spoilage. Cold smoking smokes the meat without cooking it. Hang the meat in a smoke house, light the fire and allow the meat to smoke for 10 to 20 hours. You can purchase a ready-made smoke house or plans to build your own.
Use aromatic woods to add flavor, such as hickory, mesquite, apple, cherry, pear or cranberry-apple.
Woods to avoid include all conifers, crape myrtle, hackberry, sycamore and holly.
4. Jerky meat. To make meat jerky, you can use a store-bought dehydrator. However, if you do not have one of those, you can do it in your oven by cooking it at a low temperature for several hours. Choose an inexpensive cut of meat, such as brisket. Trim the fat and slice thin strips against the grain. Season the meat with salt and pepper, and if desired, marinate it overnight with diluted barbecue sauce. Arrange the slices on a cooking grate, and put them in the oven at 170 degrees Fahrenheit for two to six hours.
Line your oven with foil for easy cleanup, Prop the oven door open with a wooden spoon to allow air to circulate.
Partially freeze meat before slicing to make it easier to slice.
5. Can fruits and vegetables. Canning involves heating food in a glass jar to remove the air and prevent spoilage. Choose from two methods to can food: water bath and pressure canning. The method you choose depends on the kind of food you want to can. Water bath canning is for jams, jellies and for acidic foods such as tomatoes, berries or cucumbers in vinegar. For main meal foods such as meat, beans and other vegetables, use pressure canning. To ensure safety, always use tried and true recipes.
6. Can with the water bath method. Gather a deep pot with a lid, a rack that fits into the pot, glass preserving jars, lids and bands and a jar lifter. Check the jars and lids for nicks and scratches which would prevent proper canning and allow spoilage to occur. Heat the jars in a pot of boiling water or in the dishwasher. Prepare your recipe and fill the hot jars with the food. Place the lids on the jars and immerse them in boiling water. Make sure the water covers the jars by 1 to 2 inches. Leave them in the water for the amount of time stated in the recipe. Remove the jars with a jar lifter and allow them to sit for 12 to 24 hours.
The lids should not flex up and down when pressed. If they do flex or if you can easily remove the lid, then the jar did not seal properly.
7. Can with pressure canning. You will need a store-bought pressure canner. As with water bath canning, check the jars for nicks and scratches, and heat them in boiling water or the dishwasher. Prepare the food according to your recipe and fill hot jars with the food. Place the jars in the canner and lock it in place. Vent the steam according to the manufacturer’s directions. Process the jars at the recommended pounds pressure stated in your recipe. Adjust for altitude. When done, remove the jars, allow them to sit for 12 to 24 hours and check the seals.

Method 4 Securing Your Home.
1. Choose your shelter type. A standalone shelter is a separate building that is designed to withstand natural disasters or man-made weapons or attacks. An internal shelter is a room within your home that has been designed to protect you from the elements or other hazards. In an economic collapse, power systems may fail and looters and scavengers may threaten your home. Take precautions to protect yourself.
2. Create two sources of electricity. One source could be solar. Hook it up to your home and then run the system discretely underground. The second source might be an underground generator. You will use this in the event of a total loss of power. Keep your energy sources hidden underground to protect them.
3. Choose the size of your shelter. The size of your shelter depends on how many people you need to protect and the size of your food stockpile. An adult needs 10 cups of water and 1,200 calories per day. In addition, each adult needs 10 cubic feet of natural atmosphere to have enough air to breathe, so you will need an air system that lets in and filters fresh air. If you are planning to stay in the shelter long-term, invest now in making it large and comfortable enough for everyone. If it is only going to be a short-term living space, you don’t have to make it as comfortable.
4. Keep the location of your shelter secret. Protect yourself from others who were not prepared and may want to take what you have. Don’t let your neighbors see you creating a shelter. You can choose a remote location, but it may be difficult to access it later. If you choose to make a safe room in your home, create a secret entrance from within your house. This way others will not be alerted to your shelter.
5. Purchase self-defense tools. Self-defense tools are generally non-lethal. They are used to fend off an attack by rendering the attacker ineffective. You can use everyday objects, such as baseball bats or keys. But these may not be as effective as tools designed for your protection.
Mace and pepper spray can be sprayed into an attacker’s face to give you time to get away.
Hand-held stun guns deliver a large electrical shock to stun the attacker.
Taser devices shoot two small probes a distance of up to 15 feet that transmit an electrical charge to the attacker.
Sonic alarms create a loud noise to let others know that you are in trouble.
6. Set up an alarm system in your home. Wireless security systems are easy and inexpensive to install and maintain. Home alert alarm systems notify you if an intruder is approaching your home. Hidden cameras allow you to see internal and exterior areas in your home where an intruder may be present. Phone dialing alarms can be installed inside or outside your home and allow you to contact authorities with the push of a button. Child monitoring alarms notify you if your child goes beyond a certain perimeter of your home.
7. Purchase weapons. Weapons can be used for either self-defense or for hunting. A crossbow is easy to shoot and aim. It’s also quiet, so it doesn’t alert people or animals to your presence. A long-range rifle allows you to hunt game from a distance. A machete can clear brush or fend off a dangerous animal. A slingshot is good for hunting small animals. Have pistols on hand and teach others to shoot, reload, shoot from cover and work as a team for protection. If you plan to have lethal weapons, be sure to train everyone who has access to them in the proper use of these weapons.
Stockpile appropriate ammunition and arrows for your weapons.
8. Gather necessary tools. Having the right tools on hand can make the difference between surviving and not surviving during any kind of disaster. You not only want to be able to protect your home, but you also need to be able to build anything you might need.
Have a bolt-cutter on hand to cut through fences and wire.
Picks, shovels, axes, chain saws and bow saws allow you dig and gather and cut wood.
Rope and paracords are essential for assembling simple and complex survival systems.
Tarps are necessary as ground covers or for weather-proofing, Stock pile nails and plywood for building and repairs.
Keep large trash bags for waste disposal, Have gasoline for fuel or a fire starter, Get a propane stove for cooking, Have a fishing rod for catching fish.

Method 5 Preparing Your Family.
1. Make sure everyone is aware of the situation. In order to prepare for economic collapse, you will have to make sure that your whole family is on board with your preparations. This means informing them in honest terms what is about to happen and telling them what they should be doing. Make sure everyone takes the situation seriously. Otherwise, they will not be mentally prepared in the event that economic collapse actually occurs.
2. Check that each family member is individually prepared. Inform each other family member of the steps you have taken to prepare your finances, essential supplies, food, and shelter. Instruct them on doing the same. Make sure each family member has also packed a bag of essentials that they can grab if they are forced to leave the house without notice. This bag should contain enough survival essentials to last between 72 hours and a week.
3. Train family members in survival skills. Your immediate family members should be aware of how to handle weapons safely, perform basic first aid, hunt or grow food, and maintain your shelter. If they don't already have these skills, take the time to instruct them thoroughly. You never know when you might have to depend on them.
4. Work with another family or group. In addition to your immediate family, consider including other family members, neighbors, or a community group (like a church group) in your preparations. Make sure that these are people who are reliable and will put in work for the benefit of the group. You will be safer and work more efficiently if you can increase the size of your group.

Method 6 Anticipating a Financial Crisis.
1. Monitor the financial markets. Calm markets tend to go up. But if the market gets choppy, meaning prices swing up and down considerably, it will likely decline. Don’t be fooled if he market soars for one day. Big ups and downs in the markets are a red flag signaling an overall decline.
2. Keep an eye on global 10 year bond yields. Global bonds are bonds that are issued in several countries at once by governments or large multi-national companies. When 10 year global bond yields drop, it is in indicator that investors are withdrawing their money to put it in safer investments. This happened before the financial crisis that happened in 2008. A significant drop in 10 year global bond yields means that investors think a financial crisis is coming.
3. Pay attention to oil prices. The fluctuation of oil prices has a macroeconomic impact. When oil prices increase, the Gross Domestic Product (GDP) goes up too. The GDP is a quantitative measure of the nation’s total activity. If it is increasing, then the value of goods and services is also going up. If periods of high oil prices signal good times for the world economy, then the opposite is also true. If oil prices are on the decline, expect the GDP and the financial markets to also decline.
4. Understand the relationship between inflation and economic growth. Economic growth tends to lead to inflation. As demand increases, prices are driven up and unemployment falls. As unemployment falls, wages increase. As wages increase, people spend more, which leads to inflation of prices. Conversely, when economic activity slows down, so does inflation. Therefore, if the price of goods and services slows dramatically, it could signal a major downturn in the economy.
5. Monitor the price of commercial commodities. Commercial commodities are goods exchanged during commerce, such as gold, lumber, beef or natural gas. Changes in the prices of commodities affect the United States economy and the value of the U.S. dollar. An increase in commodity prices is correlated with an increase in inflation. Increased inflation correlates with economic growth. However, if commodity prices drop, inflation slows, which indicates economic decline.

Community Q&A.

Question : Where can I join a survival group to prepare for the potential economic collapse?
Answer : Facebook groups are the best place to start. Search for survival groups.
Question : Why would I pay off my debt first? If the economy collapses, my creditors' well being will take a backseat to my family's well being.
Answer : If you owe money to creditors, you would be putting your family at risk during such a time if you failed to keep paying back debts. Creditors are enabled by law to come and claim some of your assets if you have stopped paying them in order to protect your family's well being. In a time like this, assets are everything.
Question : Is an investment in gold and/or silver appropriate? If so, what are your recommendations, and why?
Answer : While gold used to be the standard for currency, it is still very valuable during recessions. Purchasing gold or silver can be a great way to diversify your investments.
Question : If I have a high car payment, and my IRA is large enough to pay off the vehicle, should I close the IRA and pay off the car?
Answer : Sell your expensive car and purchase an older, reliable vehicle with cash. One should never finance an item that depreciates in value, and keep your IRA.
Question : When is the economic collapse expected? In 2018 when bond yields drop?
Answer : No one really knows, but we can predict certain fluctuations (presidential elections or new terms, corporations moving out of the country, major world events, etc.) It's just best to be prepared for it with at minimum a month's supply of essentials.
Question : Should I get out of all stocks if preparing for economic collapse? Should I pay off my mortgage if I have the stock to do so?
Answer : No. Hedge your bets by keeping your portfolio 60% in stock index funds and 40% in bond index funds. I recommend Vanguard because of the low fees. Also, do not pay off your mortgage. You need cash flow. In a collapse, you will have the moral authority to defend your home with violence if necessary.
Question : With a low fixed rate mortgage, should I have my house paid off when the U.S. dollar crashes?
Answer : If you can, hold onto the cash needed to pay off your mortgage. When the dollar crashes, it won't be worth much for buying anything, but the bank still has to take it for your mortgage.
Question : What is the best way to reduce my losses on a savings account if the currency is devalued?
Answer : The best way is to not have a savings account at all. You have more liquidity keeping your money in your checking account. So take that money out of your savings account and open up another checking account with a debit card. Do not use it.
June 02, 2020


How to Stop Being Broke.

If you're sick of being broke, it's time to take control of your finances! Whether you need to work on your spending habits, learn how to save, or find ways to earn more money, you can find a way to stop being broke. Follow these steps to start working towards financial freedom and better peace of mind.

Part 1 Getting into the Right Mindset.
1. Set goals. If you want to change your financial situation, you need to get specific about want you want to accomplish. Think about exactly what you want your finances to look like and what you can do to achieve those goals.
Setting short-term goals in addition to long-term goals can help keep you motivated by providing you with a sense of accomplishment.
Create a budget for non-essential items and hold yourself accountable for it each month. If you go over-budget one month, tell yourself that your budget for the next month is reduced as a result.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others. If you're spending beyond your means because you feel that you need to keep up with your friends or show others that you can afford a certain lifestyle, you're not doing yourself any favors. Stop worrying about what others can afford and think about how you can live within your means.
Stop equating your self-worth with your ability to buy things. This kind of thinking will make you extremely unhappy in the long run and will probably get you stuck in debt forever.
3. Track your expenses. To understand exactly where all your money is going, keep careful track of every dollar you spend. You can do this with a pen and paper or electronically if you use a card for everything, but make sure to account for everything. This simple habit will help you spend more wisely.
Try categorizing your expenses and adding them up on a monthly basis. For example, you could create categories for food, housing, transportation, utilities, insurance, entertainment, and clothing. Then calculate what percentage of your income you are spending on each category. You might realize that your expenses in some of these categories are way too high.
To understand how much you can afford to spend each day, subtract your fixed expenses from your monthly income and divide the remaining amount by 31.
4. Make a plan for getting out of debt. If you are broke because you have credit card debt, a car payment, or student loans, think about what you can do to pay off these debts faster.
Making even a few extra payments each year can help you pay off your debts much faster.
5. Start saving. This may seem impossible if you are always broke, but planning for the future will help you get out of this cycle. Start small by just putting $50 in an emergency fund each month.
Don't forget to save for retirement! Take advantage of the 401k offerings at your company or open an IRA account.

Part 2 Avoiding Money Traps.
1. Avoid lending to others. While you may want to help out your loved ones who are in need, you really shouldn't be lending money if you can't afford to pay your own bills.
2. Avoid payday loans. While they may seem like a good solution if you're strapped for cash, the interest rates are ridiculously high, so they will only get you further into debt.
3. Understand how much it will really cost. Before you take out any kind of loan or finance any purchase, be sure to calculate what your monthly payments will be, how long it will take you to repay the debt, and how much you will be paying in interest.
In some cases, paying interest may be worth it. For example, most people cannot afford to purchase a house without taking out a mortgage, but depending on the price of the house and the average cost of rent in your area, you might still be saving a significant amount of money by choosing to buy with a mortgage instead of renting.
Be especially wary of high interest rates for depreciating assets like vehicles. If you decide to sell your vehicle after you have owned it for several years, it may be worth less than what you owe on it. This can also happen with real estate when the market conditions are poor.
4. Avoid impulse buys. If you always have a plan for what you will buy, you will have a much easier time managing your finances.
If you have a hard time controlling your purchases when you go to the mall, try to avoid going to the mall at all.
Write out a list when you go shopping so you will always know exactly what you need to buy.
5. Use credit cards wisely. If you have a harder time keeping track of your expenses and sticking to your budget when you use a credit card, stop using it.
Paying with cash instead of a credit card will allow you to visualize how much of your available funds you are spending on a given purchase.
If you are able to stick to your budget when using a credit card, look for one that has no annual fee and will reward you with cash back or other incentives. Just make sure you always pay your bill on time or these incentives will not be worth the price you are paying in interest.

Part 3 Spending Less.
1. Assess your daily or weekly spending habits. Once you have a solid grasp on what you are spending your money on, you can start cutting out expensive habits.
2. Buy used items. You can save on everything from your next car to furnishings for your home by buying gently used items.
You can sometimes find really great clothes that have barely been worn at thrift shops for a fraction of the price.
3. Look for monthly expenses that can be cut. If you pay for monthly memberships or subscriptions, carefully assess how much they cost, how much you use them, and whether you could give them up.
Make sure you're not paying for services that you never use. For example, if you have premium cable channels that you never watch, you can cancel them without feeling like you are making any sacrifices. The same goes for your cell phone bill if you are paying for more data than you ever use.
4. Compare items or brands when shopping. If you're on a tight budget, you want to make sure you're always getting the best deal on absolutely everything. Take some time to compare prices for items you purchase regularly and for large purchases.
If you've had the same auto insurance carrier or cable company for a long time, there might be better deals out there, so be sure to comparison shop regularly.
Shopping for necessities online can be cheaper in some instances, but make sure you take shipping charges into account.
Use coupons to save some extra cash. Keep in mind that many retailers accept competitors' coupons.
5. Ask for a better deal. You can always ask your service providers for better deals, especially if you've been a loyal customer. The worst they can say is no.
Try this with your cable and internet providers, insurance companies, and cell phone carriers.
6. Spend less on entertainment or at restaurants. Whether it's dining out or going to amusement parks, entertainment can eat up a big chunk of your budget. Look for less expensive ways to have fun.
Learn to cook at home and keep the fridge well stocked with ingredients for things that you know you can cook from scratch when you come home late and don't have much time to whip up a grand meal.
Instead of going out to eat with friends, invite them over for a potluck.
7. Do more yourself. It may be convenient to use a laundry service or to have someone else shovel your driveway, but if you're physically capable of doing these things yourself. Think about the money you can save.
If you're not very handy, try to teach yourself to do more around the house. If you need a simple repair done, you may be able to watch a video online or take a class at a local home improvement store to learn how to do it yourself.
8. Save money on energy. Go green around the house to save money on your utility bills each month.
Sealing up air gaps can reduce your heating and cooling bills. If you own your home, investing in a properly insulated attic can make a huge difference.
Turning your heat down just a few degrees in the winter can make a big difference in your energy bills as well. A programmable thermostat will let you automate the temperature of your house so you won't spend money on heating the place to a comfortable level when you're not at home.
9. Avoid bank and credit card fees. Choose your bank and credit card providers wisely in order to avoid unnecessary fees.
Make sure to only use the ATM at your bank if you will get charged for using outside ATMs.
10. Aim to have a few no-spend days a month. After a while, it becomes a game: "How can I run my life today without writing anything down in my little blue book?" "How ingenious can I be to make do with the things, food, and resources I already have at my disposal?" See how often you can turn this into a habit.

Part 4 Earning More.
1. Get a better job. If spending less is just not enough, it may be time to get a better job that will allow you to make more money. Start by updating your resume, searching for listings online, and networking with other professionals in your field.
Don't forget to look for advancement opportunities within your company.
2. Do something else on the side. Using your skills to provide freelance or consulting services is a great way to earn additional income. If this won't work with your profession, get a part-time job or find creative ways to make some extra cash on the side.
You can make some extra money by performing jobs like mowing lawns, cleaning houses, or even walking dogs for people in your neighborhood.
3. Sell stuff you don't need. You probably have at least a few possessions that you no longer need or want, and you can turn those items into extra cash by selling them to people who do want them.
If you have lots of unwanted items, try having a yard sale.

Community Q&A.

Question : My family barely has any money. My dad has his own company, but it hasn't gotten any business in a long time. I have some money saved up, and I was think of leaving a little in my dad's wallet. What do you think?
Answer : Definitely do. Work as much as you can and give and much as you can. Also putting your family's money in a good, interest-bearing account can help a lot.

Tips.

To always have money in the bank to pay regular bills, add them up for the past year and divide by 52. Round up to the next 25, 50, or 100 dollars. Remember to add in quarterly or annual bills, too.
Buy clothes that can be used for several different occasions instead of only one-time events.
Use coupons on items whenever you can.
Start a Christmas Club account, but put in more than you expect to spend on gifts. The excess is great for a mini-vacation or special purchase.
Get a jar to collect your spare change. When it's full, take it to the bank. (Don't take it to one of those coin counters, as they charge for counting your change.)
Take it a day at a time. Start small, set goals, reward yourself (not with any type of shopping, of course) and enjoy playing the game.
July 02, 2020


How to Avoid Probate in Canada.


Probate is the legal process of collecting and distributing a person's assets after his or her death. As attorney fees, court costs, probate fees, or taxes can be expensive, many choose to plan their estate in order to avoid probate. Avoiding probate generally means ensuring that certain assets do not become a part of your probate estate. To prevent assets from becoming a part of your estate and avoid probate in Canada, follow the steps below.

Steps.
1. Name beneficiaries on your life insurance policies. Life insurance is paid directly to the named beneficiary, so the funds never become a part of the probate estate, therefore not subject to probate taxes and fees. You may also wish to name a secondary beneficiary, in case the primary beneficiary predeceases you.
2. Hold your assets in cash and/or bearer certificates. Assets held in cash or bearer certificates, such as stock, may be excluded from the probate estate, reducing the amount of fees and taxes charged to it. A bearer certificate is a financial instrument, such as a check payable to ‘cash', which may be redeemed by any party possessing it.
3. Add a Pay on Death (“POD”) or Transfer on Death (“TOD”) designation to your accounts. This can only be done in the USA. Canada does not have such a law for non-registered investment accounts. Only registered accounts such as an RRSP, RRIF, TFSA accounts can have named beneficiaries. Joint ownership is the only way to avoid probate for non-registered accounts.
A POD or TOD designation allows you to decide to whom the property will transfer or be paid upon your death. As it will be paid or transferred directly to the designated party, it will not be subject to probate taxes. To name a POD or TOD, contact the bank or investment firm where the account is held. The procedure will vary from company to company and will most often involve filling out and returning a simple form.
4. Title your assets to a joint owner. Assets, which are held jointly with rights of survivorship, pass directly to the surviving joint owner, and never become subject to probate. Joint ownership is not right in all circumstances. You may wish to consider the following, before naming a joint owner of any of your assets.
A joint owner can clean out your accounts or otherwise encumber your property. Once a party owns an interest in your property, he or she may take out loans against it, or in the case of a bank or investment account, empty it. This can be done without your knowledge or consent.
You will need the cooperation of the joint owner in order to sell or mortgage the property. Once you name a joint owner, he or she will need to consent to any sale of the property, or any mortgage taken against it.
Naming a joint owner, when he or she is not the only beneficiary of the estate, may cause discontentment between heirs. The other beneficiaries may believe that the joint owner was only meant to hold the property in trust for all of the beneficiaries, and a dispute as to who should inherit the property can easily arise.
There may be tax consequences, such as capital gains property transfer tax, when naming joint owners of certain property. You may want to consult with a Certified General Account (“CGA”) or tax attorney before doing anything that may affect your obligation to pay taxes.
Just as a joint owner has a claim to the joint property, so does his or her creditors. Titling your property with another as a joint owner may subject it to the claims of the joint owner's creditors and/or his or her spouse.
5. Give gifts. Gifting your property now will reduce the value of the estate at your death, thereby reducing the amount of taxes and/or fees due. Be aware that certain legal requirements and/or obligations may apply when making inter-vivos gifts or to those made while you are alive, for the purpose of reducing probate taxes. These considerations include:
You must actually give up control of the gift to the giftee. For example, if you make a gift of an antique piece of furniture, you must deliver the piece to the giftee, and discontinue your possession of it. Another example is if you bestow a bank account upon another, you must add their name and remove yours from the title.
There may be tax consequences for the one who receives the gift. For example, if the fair market value (“FMV”) of the gift exceeds its cost, the accrued gain may be taxable as a capital gain. The Canadian Revenue Agency (“CRA”) defines FMV as “the highest price, expressed in dollars, that a property would bring in an open and unrestricted market, between a willing buyer and a willing seller who are both knowledgeable, informed, and prudent, and who are acting independently of each other.”
Property tax transfer and other fees may be due when gifting real estate to another. You may wish to consult with a CGA, tax attorney, or probate lawyer before transferring any real property to another party, in order to ensure that your legal and financial rights are protected.
6. Set up a trust. A trust allows you to title your property to it, to be held by an appointed trustee, on your behalf. You may appoint yourself as trustee if you choose. The trust will provide for the distribution of the property after your death. Since the property is owned by the trust, it never becomes a part of your probate estate and is not subject to probate taxes.
7. Title assets to your company. If you have outstanding debt other than a mortgage, that debt will not be subtracted from your assets when the value of your estate at the time of your death is determined. This will increase the value of your estate, causing a higher probate tax to apply. Transferring the loan and the asset purchased with it to a limited company will reduce the gross value of your estate, which in turn will reduce the amount of probate tax due.
8. Make two wills. Parties who hold certain assets may decide to make two wills. A Primary Will, which deals with those assets that are required to be subject to probate, and a Secondary Will, which provides direction as to the distribution of all other assets. While this is not a widely known practice, the Court in Ontario recently approved of this estate planning approach in Granovsky Estate v. Ontario.

Community Q&A.

Question : If a partial distribution was made as a part of the deceased mother's will and the son dies before final distribution, how is the balance handled?
Answer :  In most cases, the balance will be given to the next person listed in the document.
Question : Can a person's RRIF be allocated in a will to someone prior to death and avoid having to be a part of any probate?
Answer :  Registered accounts with named beneficiaries are not subject to probate calculation as it is not part of a taxable estate. If the named beneficiary is "Estate," then it will be subject to probate.
Question : Without a named beneficiary, does life insurance and RRSP go to the probate?
Answer :  Yes, without a named beneficiary any life insurance or RRSPs become part of the deceased's estate and are therefore subject to Estate Administration Tax.
Question : A wife, as beneficiary of a life insurance policy, predeceases the husband. Upon the husband's death, how can their children receive the proceeds of the policy?
Answer :  You must put the children down now as contingent beneficiaries. Contact the insurance provider of the policy.
Question : How do I avoid probate in Canada if everything the deceased has is cash in a bank?
Answer :  You will be able to avoid probate, but you will need to be cautious about how the cash is divided up afterwards. A huge addition of cash will probably put you in a different tax bracket, and you will have to pay more income tax as a result. You will need to find out what the tax burden will be on the amount you receive, if it's purely cash.
Question : What happens when probate is started on a will and then another will is found?
Answer :  The dates the documents were signed will determine the legitimacy. The later one should be the one that is used.
Question : How do I keep my family home from probate? I would like it to continue to be a family home for my children and to let them decide what to do with it in the future.
Answer :  Add their names to the title.Then it will automatically be their property and you will avoid probate, and also, depending on where you live, estate taxes.
Question : Can a financial institution make a claim for the beneficiary's share of an estate?
Answer :  All life insurance products such as deferred annuities or segregated funds are creditor-proof.
Question : Is there a waiver of probate form or a waiver for banks to release bank funds in Canada?
Answer :  In Canada, if the estate size is small, the beneficiary is the spouse and the strength of the relationship of the deceased and the beneficiary is know to be strong by staff of the bank, the financial institution can offer a waiver of probate on a case-by-case basis.
Question : How do I know how much tax I will pay in Ontario?
Answer :  Ontario's official government website has an estate administration tax calculator.

Tips.
If you wish to control when a beneficiary inherits the property, you may want to consider creating a trust instead of naming TODs and PODs.
Talk to your friends and family about how you wish for your personal property to be distributed upon your death. If you really want a specific person to have an item, and are unsure if your loved one's will abide by your wishes, simply give it to them now.

Warnings.

Naming a joint account owner on an account will allow the joint owner to withdraw all of your money or cause a lien to be placed on the account if they are sued and a judgment is entered against them. Naming a POD or TOD may be the safest way to ensure that your property passes to whom you wish, without giving up interest in it until after your death.
Before taking an action, which may affect your legal or financial rights and/or obligations, you should consult with a qualified barrister.
Avoiding probate is not right for everyone. You may wish to consult with a barrister in order to determine if taking steps to avoid probate is appropriate in your particular situation.
June 02, 2020


How to Discuss Finances Together in a Marriage.


Finances are a hot topic when it comes to all relationships, especially marriages. Saying “I do” means more than just sharing a life together, it also means sharing financial responsibility for that life. Whether good or bad, each spouse needs to be open and honest about his or her current financial standing. What’s more, the couple must work together to decide on important financial decisions for the future. Learn the basics for discussing money with your spouse.



Part 1 Communicating Effectively

1. Broach the subject casually with your spouse. The time to start talking about merging your finances is before the wedding, but at least 40% of couples avoid doing so.

Start the conversation with your action items first. This could mean starting off by talking to your spouse about your desire to look at your own credit score as you prepare to buy a house and suggest that he or she does the same. Say something like “Have you checked your credit report lately? I’ve been wanting to get a good picture of my financial standing. Maybe we can do it together?”

Things like credit scores for both of you may change how you approach buying a home, for example. You may find if one of you has a higher score than the other, it may be better to buy without both of you on the mortgage. However, things line up, remember you are on the same “team”.

2. Gather data to support your decisions. Print your credit reports and any supporting documentation, such as account balances and credit card debt. Financial choices need to be based on numbers not emotion. Make sure you both have a clear idea of what debts came into the union and how you can work to pay those down.

Early on you are doing this to get on the same page about your individual financial pictures. However, in the future, it may be nice to take time each month to sit down together and look over the numbers. Viewing credit card statements and account balances can be a way to keep you accountable as far as goals and also open the floor for an ongoing discussion with your spouse.

3. Be candid about any bad habits. Before you get started, you must be forthright with your spouse about any habits you happen to have that are not apparent on your credit reports.

An example of a bad habit would include not taking the time to write down purchases made on your debit card so you can balance your check book. When you were single, this may have not seemed like a huge deal, but with two people sharing accounts it can quickly become a problem.

Other bad habits you need to bring to your spouse would include past blemishes on your credit like having too many credit cards open, being in default on student loans or having bills in collection. All of these issues can impact credit, but they can also be addressed and resolved.

4. Refrain from pointing the finger. Placing blame and arguing over money will not make any issues better. If you ask your spouse to be honest about credit challenges and then start the blame game you will probably not get that same level of honesty in the future.

5. Listen to understand, not to reply. This means looking at your spouse as he or she is speaking, listening carefully to fully get his or her point of view, and then taking that one step further by confirming what you have heard.

When you sit down to have a tough conversation with your spouse, you will break the trust if you are not willing to listen. Don’t ask the tough questions unless you are ready to handle any answer.

The exchange of information should be fair and equal.



Part 2 Setting Ground Rules.

1. Decide if you will merge all the money or maintain separate accounts. Even after getting married there are no laws that say you have to merge all your accounts. Having separate accounts does not mean neither of you knows what the other is doing. Both partners should have access to the records of the other since you are sharing a household.

Depending on the credit scores for both spouses, it may make more sense to keep separate accounts especially if you want to buy a home soon. One spouse alone on a mortgage is going to have a higher chance of getting the loan than two people with mixed credit scores.

2. Determine who will be the primary overseer of your money. This will include how you make decisions about both small and large purchases. The person who is most organized and financially savvy may be the best choice for managing the finances. However, both partners should take on the responsibility in some way. So, choose duties according to your individual strengths.

For example, one of you may be better at saving, so you will be in charge of building an emergency fund and overseeing retirement savings. The other may be in charge of paying monthly bills and balancing the checkbook. Decide based on what’s best for you and your spouse.

3. Agree about which of you will handle certain expenses. You will need to know who is writing the check for rent, paying the electric bill and other household bills. You do not want to get into a situation where both of you thought the other paid the electric bill and you learn that it wasn’t paid when the lights are turned off. You also don’t want to pay bills twice and be short money.

Being upfront about how much both of you make and how you will divide the bills will make things much easier. Some families divide everything I half while others just pool their money regardless of who makes what.

The use of credit cards versus cash should also be explored as one partner may be used to always using a card and then paying it off once a month while the other only uses cash. This needs to be talked about.

4. Don’t make big purchases without your spouse’s blessing. Regardless of who makes more money, a big ticket item should be bought together. This is a good time to set boundaries about how much either of you can spend without talking to your spouse. This can be as simple as saying you have a spending limit of $100 without checking in since that is a low amount in your budget and won’t overdraw the account.



Part 3 Overcoming Money Troubles.

1. Build a household budget. This budget should include all the household bills, ongoing needs and bills that were outstanding from before you got married. The budget needs to be realistic and something you both commit to. Consider these tips:

Tally up every single monthly expense and plan for them in advance.

Include separate and joint goals.

Include long-term goals like saving for a down payment on a house.

Negotiate with ongoing bills to cut down interest rates or get rid of fees.

Automate whatever you can so that you don’t miss paying bills and acquire late fees.

Go back and revise your budget as needed.

2. Start building an emergency fund. If you didn’t already have an emergency fund before getting married, now is the time to build one. An emergency fund acts as a cushion in times when unexpected expenses pop up or one of you is out of work.

How big your emergency account is will depend on you and your spouse. Many families tuck away enough money for at least 3 to 6 months of expenses. This provides greater security over the long haul.

This savings account would be for true emergencies only, not impulse buys. Take the time to set boundaries as to what qualifies as an emergency.

Some households use a credit card for emergencies like car repairs. Make sure you both agree if this is a good use of your credit cards and leave the available balance for such an emergency. If either of you has problems with managing credit cards, this may not be the best option for your household.

3. Know your debt situation and decide on a strategy to pay it off.[13] Both of you should have a very clear idea of the other person’s debt as well as your own. Don’t fall prey to the idea that it’s your spouse’s problem—it’s not. Both of your debt is usually considered during major purchases, so working together to shrink each person’s debt is ideal.

It can also be helpful to get financial advising or attend a debt reduction course for couples. If you have a significant amount of debt—or have no idea where to start to pay it down—it may be practical to involve a professional who can assist you.

4. Plan for your retirements. Talk to your spouse and come up with a plan that suits both of you for retirement and start saving. Keep in mind, that men and women often have varying opinions when it comes to retirement, so be willing to compromise and consider your spouse’s perspective.

Include payments to 401K and other investments as a part of your budget. Part of this process also includes changing the beneficiaries for each account now that you are married.

If you don’t already, you also need to draw up life insurance policies to secure your spouse and your family in case of a tragedy.



Question : If we get a divorce, will my wife get 50% of my 401K too?

Answer : Honestly, this depends on the state and the county where you are getting divorced. Different locations have different rules of division in a divorce. Some states are equitable division, meaning you split 50/50 while others are not.



Warnings.

Money troubles have ended more than a few marriages. If you are both responsible, open and honest about money, it will make for a stronger marriage.

Be mindful that some people are sensitive about discussing money. To some, money means power and control and these are very volatile subjects. Handle with care.

It can be a difficult and uncomfortable transition going from being a single person in total control of your finances to being part of a couple. If your partner is resistant, give him or her time. If you can show them that you are interested in working as a team with no judgments, your spouse will eventually come around.
February 10, 2020


How to Discuss Finances Together in a Marriage.


Finances are a hot topic when it comes to all relationships, especially marriages. Saying “I do” means more than just sharing a life together, it also means sharing financial responsibility for that life. Whether good or bad, each spouse needs to be open and honest about his or her current financial standing. What’s more, the couple must work together to decide on important financial decisions for the future. Learn the basics for discussing money with your spouse.



Part 1 Communicating Effectively

1. Broach the subject casually with your spouse. The time to start talking about merging your finances is before the wedding, but at least 40% of couples avoid doing so.

Start the conversation with your action items first. This could mean starting off by talking to your spouse about your desire to look at your own credit score as you prepare to buy a house and suggest that he or she does the same. Say something like “Have you checked your credit report lately? I’ve been wanting to get a good picture of my financial standing. Maybe we can do it together?”

Things like credit scores for both of you may change how you approach buying a home, for example. You may find if one of you has a higher score than the other, it may be better to buy without both of you on the mortgage. However, things line up, remember you are on the same “team”.

2. Gather data to support your decisions. Print your credit reports and any supporting documentation, such as account balances and credit card debt. Financial choices need to be based on numbers not emotion. Make sure you both have a clear idea of what debts came into the union and how you can work to pay those down.

Early on you are doing this to get on the same page about your individual financial pictures. However, in the future, it may be nice to take time each month to sit down together and look over the numbers. Viewing credit card statements and account balances can be a way to keep you accountable as far as goals and also open the floor for an ongoing discussion with your spouse.

3. Be candid about any bad habits. Before you get started, you must be forthright with your spouse about any habits you happen to have that are not apparent on your credit reports.

An example of a bad habit would include not taking the time to write down purchases made on your debit card so you can balance your check book. When you were single, this may have not seemed like a huge deal, but with two people sharing accounts it can quickly become a problem.

Other bad habits you need to bring to your spouse would include past blemishes on your credit like having too many credit cards open, being in default on student loans or having bills in collection. All of these issues can impact credit, but they can also be addressed and resolved.

4. Refrain from pointing the finger. Placing blame and arguing over money will not make any issues better. If you ask your spouse to be honest about credit challenges and then start the blame game you will probably not get that same level of honesty in the future.

5. Listen to understand, not to reply. This means looking at your spouse as he or she is speaking, listening carefully to fully get his or her point of view, and then taking that one step further by confirming what you have heard.

When you sit down to have a tough conversation with your spouse, you will break the trust if you are not willing to listen. Don’t ask the tough questions unless you are ready to handle any answer.

The exchange of information should be fair and equal.



Part 2 Setting Ground Rules.

1. Decide if you will merge all the money or maintain separate accounts. Even after getting married there are no laws that say you have to merge all your accounts. Having separate accounts does not mean neither of you knows what the other is doing. Both partners should have access to the records of the other since you are sharing a household.

Depending on the credit scores for both spouses, it may make more sense to keep separate accounts especially if you want to buy a home soon. One spouse alone on a mortgage is going to have a higher chance of getting the loan than two people with mixed credit scores.

2. Determine who will be the primary overseer of your money. This will include how you make decisions about both small and large purchases. The person who is most organized and financially savvy may be the best choice for managing the finances. However, both partners should take on the responsibility in some way. So, choose duties according to your individual strengths.

For example, one of you may be better at saving, so you will be in charge of building an emergency fund and overseeing retirement savings. The other may be in charge of paying monthly bills and balancing the checkbook. Decide based on what’s best for you and your spouse.

3. Agree about which of you will handle certain expenses. You will need to know who is writing the check for rent, paying the electric bill and other household bills. You do not want to get into a situation where both of you thought the other paid the electric bill and you learn that it wasn’t paid when the lights are turned off. You also don’t want to pay bills twice and be short money.

Being upfront about how much both of you make and how you will divide the bills will make things much easier. Some families divide everything I half while others just pool their money regardless of who makes what.

The use of credit cards versus cash should also be explored as one partner may be used to always using a card and then paying it off once a month while the other only uses cash. This needs to be talked about.

4. Don’t make big purchases without your spouse’s blessing. Regardless of who makes more money, a big ticket item should be bought together. This is a good time to set boundaries about how much either of you can spend without talking to your spouse. This can be as simple as saying you have a spending limit of $100 without checking in since that is a low amount in your budget and won’t overdraw the account.



Part 3 Overcoming Money Troubles.

1. Build a household budget. This budget should include all the household bills, ongoing needs and bills that were outstanding from before you got married. The budget needs to be realistic and something you both commit to. Consider these tips:

Tally up every single monthly expense and plan for them in advance.

Include separate and joint goals.

Include long-term goals like saving for a down payment on a house.

Negotiate with ongoing bills to cut down interest rates or get rid of fees.

Automate whatever you can so that you don’t miss paying bills and acquire late fees.

Go back and revise your budget as needed.

2. Start building an emergency fund. If you didn’t already have an emergency fund before getting married, now is the time to build one. An emergency fund acts as a cushion in times when unexpected expenses pop up or one of you is out of work.

How big your emergency account is will depend on you and your spouse. Many families tuck away enough money for at least 3 to 6 months of expenses. This provides greater security over the long haul.

This savings account would be for true emergencies only, not impulse buys. Take the time to set boundaries as to what qualifies as an emergency.

Some households use a credit card for emergencies like car repairs. Make sure you both agree if this is a good use of your credit cards and leave the available balance for such an emergency. If either of you has problems with managing credit cards, this may not be the best option for your household.

3. Know your debt situation and decide on a strategy to pay it off.[13] Both of you should have a very clear idea of the other person’s debt as well as your own. Don’t fall prey to the idea that it’s your spouse’s problem—it’s not. Both of your debt is usually considered during major purchases, so working together to shrink each person’s debt is ideal.

It can also be helpful to get financial advising or attend a debt reduction course for couples. If you have a significant amount of debt—or have no idea where to start to pay it down—it may be practical to involve a professional who can assist you.

4. Plan for your retirements. Talk to your spouse and come up with a plan that suits both of you for retirement and start saving. Keep in mind, that men and women often have varying opinions when it comes to retirement, so be willing to compromise and consider your spouse’s perspective.

Include payments to 401K and other investments as a part of your budget. Part of this process also includes changing the beneficiaries for each account now that you are married.

If you don’t already, you also need to draw up life insurance policies to secure your spouse and your family in case of a tragedy.



Question : If we get a divorce, will my wife get 50% of my 401K too?

Answer : Honestly, this depends on the state and the county where you are getting divorced. Different locations have different rules of division in a divorce. Some states are equitable division, meaning you split 50/50 while others are not.



Warnings.

Money troubles have ended more than a few marriages. If you are both responsible, open and honest about money, it will make for a stronger marriage.

Be mindful that some people are sensitive about discussing money. To some, money means power and control and these are very volatile subjects. Handle with care.

It can be a difficult and uncomfortable transition going from being a single person in total control of your finances to being part of a couple. If your partner is resistant, give him or her time. If you can show them that you are interested in working as a team with no judgments, your spouse will eventually come around.
February 10, 2020

Five Secrets To Buffett’s Success.

By John P. Reese.

Warren Buffett has made enough money by investing over the decades to warrant the attention he gets.
But why haven't others been able to generate the billions of dollars of personal wealth he has amassed using the same techniques? At Validea, I study and extract the stock selection methods of great investors and my strategies have come nowhere near Buffett’s incredible long-term results.
It could be that Buffett, and his Berkshire Hathaway (BRK.A) conglomerate, follow some simple investment rules that others find difficult to follow.
Patience and discipline over the long-term—and we're talking decades, here, not quarters, months or weeks—isn't the hallmark of the typical investor. It is one of Buffett's strong suits.
Having a process and sticking with it through thick and thin is also difficult for the average investor, so much so that Buffett himself has advised those who can't do it to stick to low-cost funds that track market indexes. But there is also Buffett's willingness to not follow the crowd when stocks are hot and being brave when others aren't and grabbing those unique opportunities.

Here are five secrets to Buffett's success.

Dividend stocks.
Companies that pay dividends tend to have characteristics Buffett likes, such as a good market share and steady and reliable growth and profitability. Otherwise, management wouldn't feel comfortable giving a set portion of the cash flow every quarter back to investors. Dividend-paying companies historically outperform those that don't pay one.
Of course, for investors, dividends are a source of income, and Berkshire's $182 billion portfolio has certainly delivered on that score.
The payout on Berkshire's Bank of America (BAC) shares alone is more than $526 million. And Apple (AAPL) shares will pay about $737 million. Kraft Heinz pays $814 million and Coca Cola (KO) pays $624 million. Wells Fargo $760 million.
By one calculation, according to Motley Fool, Berkshire could collect more than $4.6 billion in dividend payments for 2019, based on the company's reported holdings. Berkshire's portfolio changes slightly from quarter to quarter, so that might not be an exact number, but the message is clear. Berkshire is making a lot of money from dividend investing.

Buy-and-hold strategy.
The portfolio also highlights Buffett's other secret: invest for the long term rather than attempting to time the market. This is a lesson he learned from Benjamin Graham, the so-called father of the value investing style, Buffett embraced decades ago. The underpinning of the strategy is to buy stocks, for less than they are worth fundamentally and hold on to them.
Someone who is frequently trading in and out of a stock is merely speculating on the direction of the market and various events that may affect it. That is a speculator, not an investor.
Truly value-oriented investors would be more concerned with a company's measurable value, including profitability and assets, not with the short-term events that create near-term price swings in the stock.
Berkshire's portfolio reflects Buffett's buy-and-hold philosophy. American Express (AXP) is a holding dating back to the mid-1960s. Coke (KO) shares have been in Berkshire's hands since the 1980s. So have shares of Wells Fargo (WFC).
Moody's Corporation (MCO) is another long-term holding going back more than a decade, as are U.S. Bancorp (USB) and Proctor & Gamble (PG).
Among Berkshire's biggest holdings, Apple is the newest entry, first appearing in 2017.

Don't be afraid to let go.
That is not to say Buffett hasn't made some mistakes, and he is open about them when he does. Shares of IBM (IBM) are the perfect example.
Berkshire had long shied away from technology stocks, but in 2011 began building a stake in IBM…..just as the company would begin an agonizing six-year stretch of declining revenue and shrinking market value. Berkshire finally tossed in the towel in 2018, admitting its investment thesis was flawed.
Buffett has also talked about famous misses, including Google, which has surged to over $1 trillion in market value in the last few years. He told shareholders at the annual meeting last year that he considered it and then passed. "I blew it."

Seize opportunities.
If Buffett's success is owed to anything, though, it's to being brave when others are afraid. This means taking a chance on a stock when the rest of the investing world is fleeing for the sidelines.
During the 2008-2009 financial crisis, when investors were panicking about the markets and banks were reeling from losses on mortgage-backed securities, Berkshire swooped in with a $5 billion deal to back Goldman Sachs. The deal included high-yielding preferred stock and the chance to buy more common stock down the road, which Berkshire did, netting billions when Goldman and the rest of the financial sector recovered.
Buffett stuck a similar deal in 2011 to help Bank of America, which was reeling from lawsuits dating back to the mortgage bond crisis. Berkshire swapped the preferred stock for common stock in 2017 and continued to increase his stake in the bank, collecting billions of dollars in dividends and capital gains along the way.

Don't follow the crowd.
Finally, Buffett avoids participating in a hot market. While the S&P 500 reached multiple records last year, Berkshire's pile of cash available to invest grew to $128 billion. This has baffled analysts but probably reflects Buffett's view that there isn't much out there that is valued to his liking, so the best solution is to avoid making a costly mistake and just wait it out.
Instead, Berkshire is doing something it hasn't done in the past: It's buying back its own stock, to the tune of $700 million in the third quarter and probably more for the final three months of last year. That reflects Buffett's belief that Berkshire is undervalued.
He told the Financial Times in an interview last year that the time Berkshire is finally trading at a fair price and the stock market also looks expensive would be his "nightmare."
For investors, you may not be able to achieve the performance Buffett has but these are timeless investing principles that can go a long way to helping you achieve good results in the stock market over time. Learning from successful investors like Buffett can go a long way for many investors.

August 04, 2020


How to Manage Your Money as a Newly Married Couple.


Getting married is an exciting first stride into a new era of adulthood. What was one ‘you’ and ‘I’ now becomes ‘we’ and there is just so much to plan for the rest of your lives. It’s essential to see your life together as a partnership where you and your spouse will work together to overcome obstacles and achieve happiness for the years to come.



Steps.

1. Realize why financial matters are going to change. First of all, congratulations on this big step! Getting married is an exciting first stride into a new era of adulthood. What was one ‘you’ and ‘I’ now becomes ‘we’ and there is just so much to plan for the rest of your lives.

It’s essential to see your life together as a partnership where you and your spouse will work together to overcome obstacles and achieve happiness for the years to come. One of the most important factors most of newlywed couples will have to deal with is how to go about handling the finances after getting married.

2. Talk about your finances. If you haven’t yet discussed on how to manage your finances before the wedding, now is the best time to do so.

Don’t forget to make a list of all your incomes, debts and assets including loans and credit cards. This will help you out in comparing your spending habits and decide where you and your spouse’s priorities lie.

3. Get insurance coverage. There can’t be enough stress on the fact as to how important an insurance plan can be. They not only cover you financially, but also prove a savior at critical emergency situations. You may want life insurance to help repay the mortgage and take care of your children, should one of you die unexpectedly. Choose an insurance plan with low premiums for high coverage benefits.

What could be worse than any one of you suffering from critical health problem? Be sure you and your spouse are covered at all times with an insurance plan that takes care of your health especially if any one of you is working for hours that involves travelling for long durations.

4. Set common objectives. Whether its buying a car, renovating your home or even saving for your to-be child’s future, set the goals both of you would like to achieve together. Now try figuring out what you can realistically afford and start making disciplined savings. Also consider looking into making deposits in your savings account to keep you on track.

5. Avoid overspending. Keep track of every penny you and your partner spends. It’s easy to believe that two people who live together can live on a low budget too. Combining all the household incomes and expenses can help you save lots of money for your necessary expenses.

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6. Avoid debts. Nothing can be more damaging than living on an overburdened debt. Taking mandatory debt like car loans, etc. is one thing but compiling credit card debt or personal loans can turn problematic for both of you. Ensure you will be able to pay for all your unsecured debts without jeopardising your savings.

7. Be smart about a shared bank account. Opening up a joint bank account would be ideal if you have common goals. But in a case where you would each one of you handle your own expenses, then it would be best to open up separate accounts. But be aware and honest as to where your money is being spent.



Question : What can I do if my wife thinks that I should be responsible for her, causing a financial stress leading to a dent in the relationship? As always, I am blamed for it.

Answer : If I think one thing and you think another, then just because your opinion is different than mine doesn't mean you're wrong. And neither is your wife. If her opinion is that you pay for everything, then that is a valid opinion. You don't have to agree with it, but she's not necessarily wrong. It's a negotiation. List your expenses and list your incomes, negotiate who pays what until you both agree. If you disagree with her point of view that "husband pays all", then you must negotiate - and she must compromise too - until you reach an agreement, any agreement, that you can both agree to.


February 25, 2020


How to Manage Your Money as a Newly Married Couple.


Getting married is an exciting first stride into a new era of adulthood. What was one ‘you’ and ‘I’ now becomes ‘we’ and there is just so much to plan for the rest of your lives. It’s essential to see your life together as a partnership where you and your spouse will work together to overcome obstacles and achieve happiness for the years to come.



Steps.

1. Realize why financial matters are going to change. First of all, congratulations on this big step! Getting married is an exciting first stride into a new era of adulthood. What was one ‘you’ and ‘I’ now becomes ‘we’ and there is just so much to plan for the rest of your lives.

It’s essential to see your life together as a partnership where you and your spouse will work together to overcome obstacles and achieve happiness for the years to come. One of the most important factors most of newlywed couples will have to deal with is how to go about handling the finances after getting married.

2. Talk about your finances. If you haven’t yet discussed on how to manage your finances before the wedding, now is the best time to do so.

Don’t forget to make a list of all your incomes, debts and assets including loans and credit cards. This will help you out in comparing your spending habits and decide where you and your spouse’s priorities lie.

3. Get insurance coverage. There can’t be enough stress on the fact as to how important an insurance plan can be. They not only cover you financially, but also prove a savior at critical emergency situations. You may want life insurance to help repay the mortgage and take care of your children, should one of you die unexpectedly. Choose an insurance plan with low premiums for high coverage benefits.

What could be worse than any one of you suffering from critical health problem? Be sure you and your spouse are covered at all times with an insurance plan that takes care of your health especially if any one of you is working for hours that involves travelling for long durations.

4. Set common objectives. Whether its buying a car, renovating your home or even saving for your to-be child’s future, set the goals both of you would like to achieve together. Now try figuring out what you can realistically afford and start making disciplined savings. Also consider looking into making deposits in your savings account to keep you on track.

5. Avoid overspending. Keep track of every penny you and your partner spends. It’s easy to believe that two people who live together can live on a low budget too. Combining all the household incomes and expenses can help you save lots of money for your necessary expenses.

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6. Avoid debts. Nothing can be more damaging than living on an overburdened debt. Taking mandatory debt like car loans, etc. is one thing but compiling credit card debt or personal loans can turn problematic for both of you. Ensure you will be able to pay for all your unsecured debts without jeopardising your savings.

7. Be smart about a shared bank account. Opening up a joint bank account would be ideal if you have common goals. But in a case where you would each one of you handle your own expenses, then it would be best to open up separate accounts. But be aware and honest as to where your money is being spent.



Question : What can I do if my wife thinks that I should be responsible for her, causing a financial stress leading to a dent in the relationship? As always, I am blamed for it.

Answer : If I think one thing and you think another, then just because your opinion is different than mine doesn't mean you're wrong. And neither is your wife. If her opinion is that you pay for everything, then that is a valid opinion. You don't have to agree with it, but she's not necessarily wrong. It's a negotiation. List your expenses and list your incomes, negotiate who pays what until you both agree. If you disagree with her point of view that "husband pays all", then you must negotiate - and she must compromise too - until you reach an agreement, any agreement, that you can both agree to.


February 25, 2020


How to Find a Good Real Estate Agent.

Whether you're buying or selling a property, a quality real estate agent is vital to make the process run smoothly. Seek out an agent with excellent credentials and references. Meet with a handful of agents to make sure any Question : s you have are answered. Watch out for potential red flags. Agents who charge very low costs or only work part-time may not be reliable.

Part 1 Finding an Agent with the Right Credentials.
1. Look for someone who does at least 1 or 2 transactions every month. When reviewing an agent's credentials, look for someone who's been working in sales, negotiations, and contracts for at least five years, preferably in real estate or property management. Five years experience and a regular stream of transactions means an agent likely has a good feel for the process and can help find you the best deals.
Agents with less experience can still be a good choice if they know you and the area well, especially if they demonstrate a great work ethic and strong customer service skills.
2. Find someone who works in your area. The agent you work with should know the area in which you're looking to buy or sell. Agents who live and work in your area will be aware of the best neighborhoods and trends regarding prices. A local agent will also know small details, like where the best schools are, commute times, and so on.
3. Check the agent's license. Obviously, you want an agent who's properly licensed. Every state should have a list of licensed agents online. While making a list of agents to contact, check to ensure every agent you interview has a legal license to buy and sell real estate in your state. You can also see the continuing education classes they are taking which will help you to know what their focus is.
4. Look for awards and honors to help narrow your choices. Check a real estate's website and resume for awards, honors, and other signs of recognition. Things like a "Realtor of the Year" award can be a sign of a quality agent who's likely to exceed your personal needs. However, realize that it may also indicate a very busy Realtor who may not be the right choice if you'd like more individual attention and you may need to base your decision on other indicators.
5. Ask friends and family members for referrals. If you know someone who recently bought or sold a home, reach out to them. Friends and family members are likely to give you honest assessments of their experience with a particular agent.
However, be cautious about choosing an agent ONLY because a friend or family member recommended them. Your real estate needs and what you desire in a Realtor may be different so make sure you understand what exactly your friends or family's objectives were and what specifically they liked about their Realtor. Ask about any hesitations the person has recommending the agent as well. This way, you'll get a sense if the agent has any major flaws that would be a deal breaker for you.

Part 2 Interviewing Real Estate Agents.
1. Ask how long they've been in business. When interviewing a real estate agent, one of the first Question : s to ask is how long they've been handling sales, contracts and negotiations for clients. They should be able to answer the Question :  quickly and accurately. Remember, while five years of experience is ideal, someone with less experience who otherwise meets your needs may still work if you've developed a good rapport with them.
Also, ask how long the agent's been working in your area. Even better, ask if they live near the area. An agent with extensive experience may not be the best choice if they are not familiar with your particular area.
2. Ask if they work alone or in a team. Agents who work alone are best if you want a lot of personal contact with the agent. Agents who work on a team are good if you like the idea of specialists for each step. The agent you hire may actually be a team leader who will then introduce you to a transaction coordinator, assistant, or buyer's agent who will handle those parts of the transaction.
Agents who work alone are more likely to walk you through each step themselves and more likely to reach out frequently by phone or even in person.
3. Ask about any planned vacations or other commitments. Real estate often requires quick action and response time. If a Realtor has a vacation planned soon or some other commitment that might interfere with their availability, you need to decide whether this will affect you buying or selling a property. Make sure they have someone to help you out if they will have an extended absence.
4. Ask about what other properties they've sold. In addition to looking at current properties online, have the agent show you some of the other properties they've sold. Make sure these properties are similar to what you're looking to buy or sell. It's vital to pick an agent who works with the right properties for your needs. If the agent is typically used to working at a higher, or lower, price point, they may not understand your particular transaction as well.
If you're selling a home, ask where the home will be featured. The main places you'll need to be is on the MLS and the big online sites (Realtor.com, Zillow, Trulia, etc...). Other sites, including the agent's personal website aren't as important. Also, beware of an agent who wants to keep your house off the MLS for any reason. Unless you are selling a luxury home, the MLS is where most buyers, and their agents, are. "Pocket" listings or similar are generally suggested when an agent wants to market your house first to their own investor clients or to others in their brokerage, but limiting the exposure is almost never a good option for you as a seller.
5. Contact their recent clients. Ask for a list of references after meeting with an agent. A quality agent will not hesitate to hand you a list of recent clients for you to call to ask about their experience. Call a few references for every agent you interview to make sure they have stellar reviews. Don't put too much stock in online reviews. Most people will give a 5 star review in exchange for a Starbucks gift card and a single bad review may not tell the whole story (ask the agent if you're concerned).
6. Make sure you get along with the agent. Chemistry is important in real estate. If you're working with someone who you don't get along with, this can cause unnecessary tension during an already stressful process. Make sure you click with the agent and feel comfortable in their presence.

Part 3 Watching for Red Flags.
1. Avoid agents who don't answer their phone or return calls. A good real estate agent considers their work a full-time job and knows that weekends and evenings can be the busiest times. In real estate, every day is a "business day" and if crucial items come up on evenings or weekends, you need an agent whom you can reach. An agent who isn't available throughout the day may not be your best option.
If an agent does not answer during "regular business hours," you may have an agent who is doing real estate on the side. Their "day job" may not allow them to give you the attention you deserve.
Conversely, an agent who doesn't answer evening or weekend calls, or worse yet, has a voicemail that states anything about "the next business day," may not be available when you need them.
2. Stay away from agents who don't know the area. If an agent does not work in your area, or cannot readily provide information about the area, this is a bad sign. A quality agent should be able to quickly rattle off things like neighborhoods, general price ranges, nearby businesses, and so on. If an agent cannot provide specific details about an area, you may want to find someone who knows it better.
3. Check that lower commissions don't mean fewer services. Typical commissions are usually between five and seven percent. When agent offers a lower commission, make sure they aren't offering you less service than higher commissioned agents. Before signing a contract, verify that all of their promises are in writing.
When buying, you don't usually have to worry about the commission because the seller generally pays both sides (buyer and seller) so focus instead on customer service and contract knowledge.

Community Q&A

Question : I'm looking for a great real estate agent in Bergen County, NJ. How do I find someone who is experienced with contingency, since we are selling and buying?
Answer : Your best option is to ask someone you know for a recommendation. Another option is to drive around your community to see which agents are listed on for sale signs so that you can contact them. You can also search for agents online. Ask your potential agents if they have experience working with buyers who are also selling a home. Finally, ask them for references from previous clients who've gone through the same process.
Question : I'm a first-time home buyer. What should I expect from a realtor, other than finding me a home?
Answer : First-time home buyers have some special benefits when buying a home. Your agent should spend time reviewing these, your needs and wants, and discussing your financial strength (down payment, deposit money, the closing cost, etc). On top of that, you have to consider property taxes and home insurance. Once you're comfortable, you'll be referred to a mortgage broker, if you don't already have one. Once you get pre-approval, the search for the home with the best fit for your finances and needs will begin.
Question : How do you tell an agent you do not want their services any longer?
Answer : Let them know over the phone you want to go with a different agent. Thank them for their time, but explain to them it's simply not working out.
Question : My realtor agent is being really pushy. How can I tell if they are only in it for the money?
Answer : A pushy agent is usually a bad sign. A good agent will want you to have a good experience renting from them and will be willing to give you time to think it over.
Question : How much does a real estate agent cost?
Answer : If you are listing your property then the listing agent charges a percentage commission to list, market and advertise, show, and negotiate through the process of selling your home. If you are a buyer looking for a home with a buyer's agent, you don't pay your real estate agent directly. The buyer's agent receives their commission through the seller's transaction for getting a buyer for their home which is based on the percentage set by the listing agent.
Question : How can I get a 3-month contract for selling my home? It is hard to find anyone willing to work hard enough to do this?
Question : Answer : The length of listing agreement is negotiable between you and the real estate brokerage. Since you are the owner and you are the one who is hiring and paying, it should be your decision as to how long you want to be in agreement. However, allow sufficient time to market your property and get you good price. If your realtor is not doing as agreed or if you are not satisfied (obviously some solid reasons for that), you can always cancel or terminate your listing. Some agents only suspend your listing, hoping to win back your listing. Insist for getting it terminated and find the right agent.
Question : Is it advisable to use the same agent to sell your home as well as buy a home?
Answer : It can be a big benefit because your listing agent will have all of the necessary information to keep the buying side of the new home going along smoothly. A lot of agents who have a seller who is also buying with them will negotiate their commission differently since they will be getting paid on two sides.

Tips.

If the Realtor has an assistant, this could mean they'll have more time to focus on your needs rather than paperwork. However, make sure that the assistant won't be undertaking work that you expect to have done by your agent.
July 02, 2020


How to Find a Home After Divorce with Limited Finances.


Divorce is an emotionally draining experience, and on top of everything else you need to find somewhere to stay. There are fewer options for people with limited finances. Since you probably can’t buy a home, you should find a cheap rental in a good location. If necessary, you can crash with friends or family or even try to stay at home with your ex-spouse until you save up enough money.



Method 1 Finding a Cheap Rental.

1. Search the Internet. Looking for cheap rental options is a little like searching for a needle in a haystack. However, there are cheap apartment rentals out there. Check websites such as Rent.com. A studio or a bedroom in someone’s house will probably be the cheapest to rent.

You might need a small place at first—really small. In expensive cities, you might get a 100 square foot micro-studio for under $1,000.

Also consider apartments in slightly shady neighborhoods. Check neighborhood crime rates at www.neighborhoodscout.com. Remember that your first home after a divorce doesn’t need to be your permanent home.

2. Contact hotels. You might only need a temporary place to stay, e.g., for a month or so. In some countries, such as Canada, a lease must be for at least 12 months. Your only option for short-term housing might be to stay in a hotel or motel.

Many national chains have extended-stay hotels. Call and ask about rates.

Renting a hotel this way is more expensive than renting an apartment. However, it’s more convenient if you need short-term housing.

3. View the apartment. Call up the landlord and ask to see the place. No matter how desperate you are, you shouldn’t rent a place without first viewing it. Some cheap apartments are unsanitary and unsafe.

Make sure the apartment is close to work or accessible by public transportation.

Check your cell phone reception. You can save money if you just use your cell phone and skip the landline.

Also confirm that there is enough water pressure. Flush the toilet and turn on the taps.

4. Check your credit. More and more landlords are looking at people’s credit history before deciding to rent to them. Pull your credit score and credit history. If your score is low, try to clean up your credit history quickly.

There may be errors on your credit history that are pulling down your score. For example, your ex-spouse’s debts might show up on your credit report, or accounts might wrongly be listed as in default. Dispute any credit report errors. It usually takes a couple months for inaccurate information to come off.

5. Ask if you can forego a security deposit. Landlords typically want a month’s rent as a security deposit to protect them in case you damage the apartment or skip out before the end of the lease. If you have good credit or a long rental history, you can ask the landlord if you can rent without paying a deposit.

If necessary, check whether you can put your rent on a credit card. It’s not an ideal solution, but it will help you get a roof over your head. You can pay the credit balance down once you get re-established.

6. Get a roommate, if necessary. Any apartment is cheaper if you have someone splitting the bills. You can advertise for a roommate on websites such as Craigslist, though it is better if you know the person already. Confirm that the lease allows you to have a roommate, because not all leases do.

If you have to advertise, ask any potential roommate for references and one month’s security deposit.

Be very clear about your expectations regarding cleanliness and having guests over.



Method 2 Staying with Friends or Family.

1. Call them up and ask. Don’t show up at someone’s doorstep with a suitcase, but call ahead of time. Ask if you can stay with them for a little bit. Give them a deadline when you anticipate moving out.

For example, you can say, “Mom, I need to come home. Is that okay? I’ve only got a few hundred saved. But if I can stay with you for two or three months, I’ll be back on my feet.”

2. Save money fast. You can’t sleep on someone’s couch forever, so cut all unnecessary expenses and take on a part-time job if possible. Build up enough money to afford a security deposit on a small apartment.

A part-time job might be ideal since it will keep you out of the house. Check Craigslist for part-time gigs such as dog walker, Uber driver, or bartender.

3. Be a model guest. People are doing you a huge favor by letting you crash with them for a little while. Make things easy on your host by keeping your space clean, not making noise, and being respectful when your host has guests.

Wash dishes or prepare meals without asking. This will relieve your host’s stress.

Avoid draining your friend’s electricity by charging up your computer and phone on their dime. Instead, find a public café or recharge while at work.

Keep complaints to yourself. Do you think the sheets are scratchy? Consider yourself lucky to have a place to stay.

4. Follow house rules. Your friends might have rules that seem weird to you. That’s not the point. You need to follow them if you don’t want to get kicked out. Ask about anything that seems unclear.

Some rules are unspoken. Pay attention to your host’s habits. For example, if they only watch TV with the volume down low, do the same.

5. Buy your own food. You should prepare your own meals so that your host doesn’t feel like they have to wait on you. Ask your friend where the nearest grocery store is and load up on food. Make sure there’s enough room in the refrigerator.

6. Volunteer to cover expenses. You can build goodwill by volunteering to buy food or paying other bills. For example, pick up a large pizza on your way home from work and invite your host to share.

7. Leave when asked. Someone might need you to leave before you want to. Gather your things and thank them. Then call up other family or friends to find a place to stay.

Remember to clean up after yourself. Remove any trash and wash the sheets or vacuum the sofa you slept on. Don’t leave anything behind.



Method 3 Living With Your Ex.

1. Talk to your ex. No law says you must leave your home after a divorce. If you have no money, you might be best off sitting tight until you’ve managed to save up enough for an apartment. Of course, you’ll need your ex spouse’s permission—especially if they were given the house in the divorce decree.

If your ex doesn’t want you in the house, volunteer to stay in the garage or in a guest house.

Staying in the house isn’t an option if there’s been any history of domestic violence, or if there is a restraining order against you.

2. Contribute to the bills. You should split shared costs, such as property taxes, insurance, electricity and—if you can afford it—the mortgage. Sit down with your spouse and talk about what you will contribute.

If you don’t have any money, volunteer to do things around the house. You can cook all meals, make repairs, and clean.

3. Come up with a schedule. Try to limit contact as much as possible. Staying in the house will be uncomfortable for everybody, but a detailed routine can make things easier. If your ex thrives on conflict, then limiting contact will be beneficial.

For example, you might get up an hour earlier than your ex and come back home an hour earlier. Schedule when you’ll use the bathroom and the kitchen.

4. Be considerate. You might have been a slob while married, but now you need to clean up after yourself. Become the ideal roommate. Follow these rules.

Wash your own dishes.

Eat only the food you buy. If you want something your ex bought, ask first.

Volunteer to clean shared spaces, such as bathrooms, and mow or rake the lawn.

5. Avoid bringing dates home. Your ex might hit the roof, and who can blame them? It’s terribly rude to start dating in front of your ex-spouse. If you want to date, then meet outside the home and don’t bring them back.

There’s also no reason to advertise that you’re dating. Keep that news to yourself.

6. Reduce conflict. If you have children, they will be harmed by constant fighting. As long as you are staying in the house, you need to commit to living peacefully. You can defuse tension by practicing the following.

Listen to your ex-spouse and avoid getting defensive. If your ex complains about your habits, avoid the temptation of starting a tit-for-tat argument. After all, your ex might have a legitimate grievance.

Don’t revisit the divorce. You’re living at home for financial reasons, not because you want to pick apart why you divorced in the first place.

7. Leave as soon as possible. Staying in the house should be a temporary solution. Some people get comfortable being part of a couple even when they are no longer married. For your own personal growth, you should move out as soon as you can afford it.



Method 4 Considering Other Options.

1. Rent a motor home. If you need a temporary place to stay, rent an RV or buy a used one. Ask friends or family if you can park on their property. If you don’t know anyone, you can park at a local campground for a fee. Recreational vehicles typically have sleeping, dining, and bathroom areas.

You can find rentals online or by looking in your telephone book. Shop around for the most competitive price.

2. Apply for housing assistance. In the U.S., low-income people can apply for a Section 8 voucher. You find a landlord willing to accept the voucher and rent directly from them. The voucher then subsidizes your rent. Contact your nearest Public Housing Authority to apply.

There are income limits for eligibility. Typically, your income shouldn’t exceed 50% of the median income of a family your size in the county or city where you want to live. For example, the median income for a single person might be $25,000. Your income will need to be $12,500 or less.

Even if you qualify, there’s usually a long waiting list. You might need temporary shelter.

3. Get a room at the Y. Your local YMCA or YWCA might have rooms for rent. Generally, they will charge by the day, week, or month, and you can book online. A night at the YMCA in the Upper West Side costs around $100 a night. This is pricey, but a decent choice if you need a place to crash for a couple days.



Tips.

If you have children but are not receiving child support, contact your local child support agency immediately. They can track down missing parents, establish paternity, and get a child support order in place.
February 16, 2020